Issue 13
MY SILHOUETTES!!!! Oh My Goodness it has been a long time! Please please please forgive me for my time away; I was getting my life together ha-ha! However now I’m back, I have the most beautiful topic for you today A Modest Bride ~ The Process of the Perfect Day << how beautiful of a title is that, amidst all the darkness in this world, people still find the light within the darkness and continue to join in Holy Matrimony, bridging families and bringing joy!
So what’s it all about I hear you say, what does Modesty have to do with this topic…well everything. Right now in this world there is a continuous war with Islam, especially its treatment of women or what the media propagate, again there is this notion that the women are oppressed, have no say in anything and are subjected or forced to marry those whom their heart do not require. Well I am here to kill that perception for you, get you to open your mind and just hear me out, {Don’t X that screen just yet O_O}.
Mainstream Islam or what has been fed to us shows the disrespect of Women, and because our generation do not like to read or research things for ourselves, we get comfortable with the falsehood that we are fed. Please don’t do yourself a disservice your intellect is better than that (smile). It is easy to misinterpret Culture and Religion as the same thing because we bring our characters into that which we say we believe {Good and Bad}; if not a religious denomination then we bring our character into anything we have a passion for. {I see you nodding slightly…. Yes... smile} ok good. So it is with Islam, for the longest time we have seen a culture being mixed with Islamic practices and it has left an unsatisfying taste in our mouths. Now don’t get me wrong I’m not disrespecting that which I say I love, I’m just making a point, stay with me people!
I’m going to give you a few quick quotes for your mind to marinate on and then we’re going to get back to the party!
Quite some powerful quotes right! It just hit you like BOOM, POW, KACK! LOL, ok let me focus :D What I loved about these quotes is that it forces you to THINK, THINK for yourself, make your own analytical and logical judgement. I loved how one of them expressed that it is important to REMEMBER THE IDEA not the man, because the man can fail etc. etc… in so many words, that’s where I’m going with the perception of Islam, even though there are great Men of this world, Islam is solely based on Morals, Principles and a standard that God has sent down, for those whom choose to follow the Lifestyle, shall adhere to. However like Chinese whispers the interpretation of his Laws and Guidelines has been MISINTERPRETED to mean otherwise, which has been done throughout time. Again let me remind you fellow readers, just as it says above I DON’T WANT YOU TO THINK LIKE ME, I JUST WANT YOU TO THINK?
Ok you’re looking at me like Fashion.Silhouette what the shamrock does this have to do with Wedding’s and Modesty? (big smile) well I had to prep you for the journey! You can’t set off somewhere without the bare essentials and a proper foundation hmm.. :) This all leads to the fellow Women in Islam, Marriage and the preparation for the big day. The next step I’m taking you on now involves a small History of the Real Role of the women in Islam, beautifully explained by one of the Female Scholars of Islam, known as Mother Tynetta Muhammad of the Nation of Islam, read a small snippet of her interview as she breaks down the stigma and stereotype.
Islam and the Divine Feminine? “ When we first approached doing this article, that phrase seemed to us an oxymoron a contradiction in terms. If there was any group in the world that ritually dishonoured the feminine principle, we believed, it was the followers of Muhammed. We were shocked to find how totally false was this belief. In fact, as we have learned, despite the historical degradation of its original intent, the sacred core of Islam is female, not male. Islamic women first wore veils and black robes of concealment for protection from foreign soldiers. Muslim women were enshrouded not because they were despised, but because they were so precious so deeply treasured. Today, the sacred shrines of Mecca also are veiled and shrouded in black.
Though the culture in which he was born was exclusively patriarchal, Muhammed elevated women to positions of importance, and sought to enshrine the Divine Feminine at the heart of the religious practice he taught. When asked what human being he honoured above all others, the Prophet replied: "My wife." We learned all this and more from Mother Tynnetta Muhammad as she is affectionately called by the devotees of the Nation of Islam. She is the widow of Elijah Muhammad, the Nation of Islam's founder. We wanted to talk with Mother Tynnetta because of the incredible power she projects. How, we wondered, had she come to have such an aura of radiance from within a religious culture that persecutes and disempowers women? We were surprised and totally enchanted with her answers.”
Mother Tynnetta: “It's true. If you look at the society around Muhammed, you will find that males and females would sit with him in public. Women even joined in the battles that were fought. Women were educated and taught to recite with the men the verses of the Qur'an. In that time, there were no restrictions like those you see today…
… Egypt is the key. In 975 CE, the Fatamid Dynasty was established in Cairo, and Al-Azhar University, the oldest university in the world, was founded there at the same time. That university was the last citadel to honour the nobility of women. There, women helped develop the courses of study they still have to this day, mathematics, music, all the subjects we would consider today to be part of a good curriculum.”
The rest of the article can be found via this link! http://www.melanin6.com/13th-tribe.htm
~ Let’s Get Married ~
Now we are in the 21st century things are brighter, bolder and more colourful! This is how it has become with the beauty of Marriage within the Muslim world. Women have celebrated their diversity of Modesty and incorporated their characteristic and style into such a lifestyle, more so now their wedding day, they are breaking boundaries and showing the world that it is beautiful to be a modest woman and that we must celebrate such a freedom. Yes I said freedom! Don’t believe me! Let me show you now the beauty and redefinition of a Wedding gown woo!
Not only do I have visuals, I have taken the liberty of interviewing some beautiful believers from the Muslim Community about prepping for the big day. ENJOY my fellow Silhouettes x
{Wedding Photos, courtesy of Basma_K & Dina_Tokio} << Instagram Pages
~ INTERVIEWS ~
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Female Questions
*Elyasha Muhammad*
1. What is a modest bride to you?
A modest bride to me is a woman who strives to cover herself not only by physically covering her body but Covering and guarding her mind as well. She covers to please Allah, herself, and her husband.
2. How important is it to you to carry through your beliefs on covering yourself, on one of the biggest days of your life?
It's very important to keep up and carry on my beliefs because my beliefs aren't just that, they are my way of life. One day won't make me deviate. If anything this one day would make me showcase and show out even more for those who aren't familiar with our way of life. Show them the beauty of modesty.
3. What was/is your thought process in preparing/designing a modest brides gown?
My first thought was that I wanted to be BOMB! Lol... my other thoughts were 'What would be pleasing to Allah as well as myself?' So it had to be a brainstorming session where I'd look for ideas online that pleased me and looked good to me And finding ways to make it modest. The cape on the back of my dress made it fashionable as well as modest for me.
4. Was/are you looking to please Allah/God with your attire or your husband? Why?
Absolutely! I look to please Allah every day and through pleasing Him I know my husband will be pleased.
5. Do you feel oppressed, as the world is lead to believe, being covered, especially on your wedding day?
Although it's a daily struggle to maintain modesty when we live in an immodest world, on my wedding day I felt none of that. I felt so beautiful not showing one ounce of skin or cleavage. I felt pleasing to Allah as well as staying true to myself. And my dress was a hit amongst believers and non-believers!
~Aisha Muhammad~
1. What is a modest bride to you?
A modest bride is a woman who incorporates her own style and fashionista preferences into a wedding gown that covers her body. It’s elegant yet chic and should take peoples breaths away as soon as you see it. A modest bride should be a seed in the brains of women, subconsciously inspiring them into modest wedding attire.
2. How important is it to you to carry through your beliefs on covering yourself, on one of the biggest days of your life?
It’s not important it’s IMPERATIVE, my way of life is Islam and although I may not be perfect within my Islam I’m still striving to perfect it, I feel part of that perfection is covering yourself on your wedding day. You only get to wear your wedding dress once, why not show the world how beautiful a Muslim gown can look, I want my Muslim wedding gown to inspire others to embrace modesty on their wedding day. I want my children to look at my wedding photos and think ‘Masha ‘Allah mum looked great and she was all covered’.
I also feel it’s a day when you enter into a new chapter of your life, you’re no longer a single woman, you’re standing before Allah and making a vow; so we should be covered. Just like when we make Salat {Prayer} we are covered.
3. What was/is your thought process in preparing/designing a modest brides gown?
Gosh lol, the process is really difficult because my theme is so precise, and I can be really picky when I want things to look a particular way when I’m going to a big event, I’ve already started to collect some ideas. It’s just putting those ideas together, I thrive in my individuality so designing the gown is going to be a pain but I know Insha’Allah it will be worth it.
4. Was/are you looking to please Allah/God with your attire or your husband? Why?
It’s Allah first, then myself and then my husband when it comes to the attire. In our prayers we say ‘Surely my prayer, my sacrifice, my life and my death are all for Allah’ so naturally my wedding attire is for Allah, as much as I am looking forward to growing into oneness with my husband, I can’t even begin to think about doing that without the help of Allah. Allah is the primary, the forefront of all Al-hamdulillah. However Insha’Allah my husband will be pleased with my attire too.
5. Do you feel oppressed, as the world is lead to believe, being covered, especially on your wedding day?
Excuse my French but Hell No. To be frankly honest when we are left to ourselves without guidance that’s when we begin to oppress ourselves and are unjust to ourselves, if anything I feel blessed, utterly blessed that Allah has given me the understanding of the true beauty of my form and that such a form should be covered, not because he wants to hide me away because it’s shameful but because it is so beautiful that people aren’t worthy of witnessing it, only one is worthy and that is my husband.
I feel excited to show Allah how far I have come within my faith to cover myself when presenting myself before him on my wedding day, and saying Allah thank you for allowing me to find my mate, I cover myself in your honour, please unify this man and I. I pray that when that day comes Insha’Allah Allah will be proud of me and rain blessings upon my marriage.
<3 Maryam-Orchid Muhammad <3
. What is a modest bride?
My interpretation of a modest bride is one who is style conscious, one who dresses for her size while encompassing the moral conduct of covering her body to look breathtakingly regal. By covering I don’t mean undesirable, I mean it in a way that you don’t have to see everything. I believe in being understatedly demure, you are so much more gorgeous and desirable. You leave much more to the imagination, really I believe, that fullness of your shape and what’s underneath your dress is for your husband so why show it off to eyes that have no jurisdiction seeing certain parts of it.
. How important is it to you to carry through your belief on covering yourself, on one of the biggest days of your life?
It’s very important. This is going to be a milestone in my life that Allah has blessed me to get to; He has blessed me with such an amazing soul mate. How could I dishonour Him by dressing other than my modest self? What He has required of me for my protection. It’s second nature really because I have been dressing modestly outside of my wedding, its only right to bring my fashion sense into this very auspicious occasion.
. What was/is your thought process in preparing/designing a modest brides gown?
I illustrated the dress for my upcoming wedding, I felt that there wasn’t a dress out there for my needs so I decided to create and design that, which would fit my style perfectly. I went on my hunt to create the perfect dress that embodies, style, grace, elegance and of course modesty. There were a few dresses that made my jaw drop but they were not quite right, so I used them as inspiration to create the masterpiece that is my dress.
. Was/ are you looking to please Allah with your attire or your husband? Why?
I am looking to please Allah and my future husband. My fiancé loves my modesty; it is what attracted him to me in the first place. He is very supportive and adores the way I dress; it gives him a sense of pride. Of course Allah is always in the forefront of my mind and pleasing Him is paramount, I do believe he would be pleased with my dress because it exemplifies all that He tells us as women to wear as followers of His way of life.
. Do you feel oppressed as the world is lead to believe? Being covered, especially on your wedding day?
Absolutely not!!! Being covered is such a beautiful expression of who I am, getting to display all of Allah’s magnificent colours in the way He finds beautiful is an honour and a pleasure.
All the ladies of high standing have worn wedding dresses where they are covered; take Grace Kelly she was absolutely covered but so modest in her appearance. I consider myself to be the second self of Allah which is one of the highest honours in the universe, with such a title I have to dress like the queen that I am.
*Kareemah Muhammad*
1.What is a modest bride to you?
Modesty starts in your heart. All forms of modesty (your dress, actions, and the way you carry yourself) stem from that modesty in your heart and your desire to please Allah. So, to me a modest bride is one who covers and has covered herself emotionally, physically, etc. in order to find a mate who has truly earned her company and the parts of her she has protected.
2. How important is it to you to carry through your beliefs on covering yourself, on one of the biggest days of your life?
It is extremely important to uphold the standard that I try to meet every day of my life, especially on such a big and special day. I've noticed that many sisters who cover 364 days out of the year choose their wedding day to be uncovered. However, I feel it's just as important if not even more important to cover on your wedding day and show people that you truly believe what you say you believe.
3. What was/is your thought process in preparing/designing a modest brides gown?
Well the first thing that comes to mind when a modest wedding gown is the subject, is STYLE! I am a firm believer that you don't have to sacrifice style when being covered. Many of us will go about our lives throwing things together for the sake of modesty and then try to appeal to women who are interested in fashion/style at the same time and they are turned off by it! It is possible to be covered, beautiful, and still kill it on your wedding day (and every other day)!
4. Was/are you looking to please Allah/God with your attire or your husband? Why?
Absolutely! I strive to be pleasing to Allah in every aspect of my life. He wants the best for all of us and the very best is what pleases Him. When choosing a spouse I want to be sure that I am courting in a way that's pleasing to Allah as well as how I go about my married life. I want to respect Allah, my husband, and myself by sharing what is for my husband only with him
5. Do you feel oppressed, as the world is lead to believe, being covered, especially on your wedding day?
If there's any feeling I get from being covered it is free. I am free of the world's expectations of being uncovered. I am free from people knowing me based off of my body and the things I show. I am wondered about for what I don't show. People can get to know me by talking to me and asking questions instead of assuming they know about me based off of my dress (or lack thereof). I am given the right to be a mystery, and I love that.
~Faatimah Muhammad~
1.What is a modest bride?
A modest bride is no light weight contender, in the ring of moral excellence/being chaste. A modest bride is a woman who has held on to her power, and who has fought against this world to keep it sacredly reserved. Vowing to herself and The Most High that the gift He has given her, she allows no outside forces or entity to interfere and break the covenant that she has with GOD. A modest bride vows to herself and GOD, that she will only share her gift with the man that Allah (God) sees fit, has chosen and sends to her, through the union of marriage. That power is what we call virtue! … Although, this is not the path that some women have led or are leading, a woman can reclaim her virtue. … Anytime she wants!
She can reclaim her virtue and it will be honoured in the eyes of Allah (GOD), as long as she atones with Allah (God), herself, is SINCERE and remains discipline in being chaste. As women, Allah gives us the power to call our virtue back in to existence; and with that power HE gave to us, it allows us to be born again in a pure, virgin, spiritual state. And in doing that, Allah is then pleased with us. As it states in The Holy Quran, “Allah loves those who purify themselves.”
2. How important is it to you to carry through your beliefs on covering yourself, on one of your biggest days of your life?
I think it’s VERY important. It makes you stand out from the rest because you are going against the grain, of what this world promotes to us as “elegant” or “fit for a bride". It also is a clear sign of respect that you have, not only for yourself, but for your soon to be husband. when you make the conscious decision to cover up on your wedding day, it sends a message to every one of your guests, that, I respect my husband, and what I have that will potentially be his, I want to conceal it from you all, so I can give him the confidence in knowing that what I am giving him was and is solely intended for his eyes to see ... so I make this decision to cover myself before the world, on my wedding day. …Even if he doesn’t verbalize it to you, it doesn't go unnoticed, and he (your husband) will look at you differently, with having MORE of a respect for you for keeping him and his feelings in mind, in making your dress decision. … You cheapen yourself by putting yourself on display.
It now creates the opportunity for a space of mental disrespect. Now you have men looking at you in a lustful manner, wanting to have you any kinda way, having all these sexual thoughts about you and there you are, walking down the aisle to your HUSBAND. Just the imagery and thought of that alone is pretty sick. It’s also a form of distraction, because it takes the focus away from the real reason everyone is really there, because everyone is focused on what the bride is wearing… or lack thereof. Covering on that day keeps the minds/thoughts in check. So no one is looking at you and your form, but, are looking at two souls coming before Allah (God) to become one, through the form of a sacred union… Marriage.
3. What was/is your thought process in preparing/designing a modest brides gown?
Well, when that time comes for me to start preparing for a dress, I think having one made is the best option, for me. With having a wedding dress made it’s your vision being brought to life. It helps you to avoid having to have any modifications made, and keeps you safe from being subjected to what is already presented in a store bought dress, where decency is concerned. … My thought process is just staying true to my style. I’m a woman who chooses to cover herself before the world ... that’s me, that's my swag. So there isn’t any thought process for me necessarily. It’s just natural. I’m the visionary, and I’m the author of my level of decency. It’s not dictated to me. So that places me more at a liberty to express myself in modesty and my style, the way that “Faatimah" sees befitting for her on her wedding day.
4. Was/are you looking to please Allah/God with your attire or you husband? Why?
I think it’s both. One definitely outweighs the other. Pleasing Allah is certainly first and foremost. It says “please Allah and not the world”, why? Why isn’t it “please the world and not Allah”? Well, if you haven’t pleased Allah/ haven’t strived to please Allah, then you really haven’t pleased anyone at all or anyone worthy to be pleased. Allah is the source of which we attain everything we need. So, if God is the life force of ALL that we need to sustain us, then naturally, we should have the sincere desire to please that which sustains us, so we may continue to be sustained. All we have to do is submit to Allah and we will be glorified in his good grace. No one can do all of that for us, in the capacity that God does. So obeying HIS law is an exchange for his divine protection. When a woman makes the conscious decision to cover herself, Allah is pleased with that. So what happens now is that through her obedience Allah places his protection over her from unwanted attention.
Allah is omnipresent and HE is the only one who can guarantee us protection from unwanted attention. He gives her the power to correct the thinking of a man just through her dress, alone. And with that, she is able to move through this world freely and unharmed. So, we should want to be found pleasing to Allah. Being pleasing to Allah is a service to us. …. Pleasing to your husband? But of course! Every natural woman wants to be pleasing to her husband, in the way she looks and what she wears. Women want to feel that their husband is physically attracted to them; and men want to be physically attracted to their wife. That’s very important in a marriage… to be able to still captivate the mind, heart, and eyes of a man who sees you EVERYDAY, as if it’s his first time seeing you. That’s power! We (women) have that power. Also, what I mentioned earlier, the respect for your husband. No man in his right mind wants the world to see his woman, in a way that he sees her. It takes the value away. It takes the value away of how he views her, because everyone else has seen her in a way they shouldn’t.
It’s nothing sacred between the two of them anymore because now the world has been invited in to their private domain. So out of respect, and love for the position that her husband holds, a wife should want to be pleasing to her husband as well, by covering herself.
5. Do you feel oppressed, as the world is lead to believe, being covered, especially on your wedding day?
. … Do, I LOOK oppressed? (Laughs and smiles) … absolutely NOT! That’s a misconception that someone else has created for themselves or someone else. That’s not MY story nor reality. This world is so topsy turvy! This world has given everyone an opinion about a woman being covered up, must be oppressed. That shows you that something is terribly wrong with this world we are living in.
The Most Honourable Elijah Muhammad said that you can tell the condition of a nation by its woman. Women of this world today are exploited, used, taken advantage of, etc. This world GIVES women their standard of dress. This world formulates her opinion for her and she has been conditioned to submit to it. So, objectively looking at this, it is not the woman who goes against the grain, who clothes herself who is oppressed. She is a liberated woman. Because her mind is free from the mental burden of being taught what to think, from this world, about how she should dress. It is the woman who is unclothed who is oppressed because she has been conditioned and GIVEN an opinion that this world’s trends is the standard and what she should partake in.
*Afiya Mahatmas Muhammad*
1. What is a modest bride to you?
A modest bride is one who has kept the secrets of God veiled within herself. A modest bride is one who guards the secrets (treasures) of her husband. She is one who reaches within herself and finds the inner essence of the beauty of God and weaves it into manifestation on all levels. As it correlates to her bridal attire and those of her in the wedding party, she will select attire that is pleasing in the sight of God. She will also show the purity of the heart of herself as a bride and her dedication to God and her husband. A modest bride will also try to elevate those in who are in attendance of the wedding to that of a higher vibration, and God centeredness. A modest bride will show the world how to have a God centred wedding with clean entertainment and refinement and civility. A modest bride will manifest the beauty of the feminine aspect of God on her wedding day.
2. How important is it to you to carry through your beliefs on covering yourself, on one of the biggest days of your life?
It is highly important, as I constantly view myself as being a Muslim girl. Being a Muslim girl entails giving your life and your death to Allah. We are taught how to dress by Allah. So why would I dishonour the life Allah gave me, and the life I said I would give to Allah as a woman by dressing other than myself on one of the biggest days of my life? It was very important that I tried to embody the beauty of life and the life giving teachings on the biggest day of my life by being covered beautifully. Also, it gave those who saw me covered an experience to see a woman who was covered yet beautiful. It also showed those who attended that I was unwavering in my beliefs on covering myself.
3. What was/is your thought process in preparing/designing a modest brides gown?
My first thought in the process in preparing a modest bride gown was to make sure that I found something that was in line with what we are taught as Muslim girls to wear. Secondly, I wanted to make sure that I found something that was attractive and pleasing to the eye like the fine silk Master Fard Muhammad carried with Him. Third, in my thought process, I wanted to make sure my bridal gown represented the cleanliness of mind, and heart as I entered the sacred vow before God to my husband. Lastly, in my thought process I wanted to show other women that modesty is beauty.
4. Was/are you looking to please Allah/God with your attire or your husband? Why?
Yes, I was looking to please both Allah (God) and my husband with my attire. When we come into Islam as women we are given instructions on how to dress and why we are to dress that way. A Muslim is one who submits themselves to do the will of God. A Muslim girl is one who is a female that submits themselves to do the will of God. In becoming a wife and a helpmeet, a Muslim girl is now entering into the role of helping her husband reach his God head. The wedding day is a ceremony in which a couple comes before God and takes an oath to God. So, knowing all of the aforementioned, I had to do the best that I could as far as finding attire that I know that God and my husband would be pleased to see me in. The wedding ceremony should be God centred, therefore the attire worn should be God centred as well.
5. Do you feel oppressed, as the world is lead to believe, being covered, especially on your wedding day?
No, I do not feel oppressed in being covered at all. Not on my wedding day or any other time of my life. The way we are taught to dress and cover is the way God instructed us to dress. There is no oppression in that.
-Dawee X-
1. A modest bride to me is a bride who puts God first, who desires to please God, who wants for herself what God wants for her, she strives to not let society influence her behaviour.
2. It is extremely important for my bride to be modest, its vital...because her modesty is a protection for her in a world shaped in sin, her modesty demands that she is respected by all of man, good or evil, & it is a most excellent example to show her children & all children that they may know its importance.
  
3. I prefer that everything she does from dress to speech would be to please God...and on our wedding day, a day when two people stand before God to form a union and bond, my utmost desire is that she dress to please God, if God is pleased, I'll be pleased.
4. A modest bride to me is one who desires to serve and please God & is in touch with her femininity, she doesn't desire to show out or show up to be seen by others, she battles against vanity, knowing that God is sufficient.
5. I desire a modest bride because God desires women to be modest, God desires Men to be modest. So as I strive to be modest by dressing, speaking and acting appropriately, I desire my bride to be the same, and it's a very big deal about how she dresses, the way she dresses directly reflects her mind-set, which in turn reflects mine, so if she dresses immodestly, she lacks a certain level of decency and self-respect, and if I allowed this, I lack the same.
~Dylan Diallo~
1. A bride that dresses respectable all the time outside the yard and also carries herself the right way in terms of mannerisms
2. it’s important but she also needs to be comfortable with what she is wearing and comfortable in herself
3. Both, in the sense that, I'd want her to look beautiful and sexy in my eyes but with religion it would again need to be something she'd feel comfortable in
4. Similar to no 1. Added attribute is humble as well
5. A modest bride is that woman that's separate from everyone else she's not for everyone she's just for me, plus with this being the woman to spend your life with and raise our daughter's (potentially) it's the woman you'd want them to learn from. If she don't look right, as a man some will feel some type of way, if she doesn’t look respectable, added to the fact that she is also an extension of you, that's someone you want to feel comfortable with as well, which would be difficult if she don't look/act right
*Joshua Muhammad*
1) A modest bride is one that's dressed as if her father would approve.
2) Its very important for her to be modest. In the scriptures it says God is a jealous God. I, being made in his image am jealous as well when it comes to my future wife. I don't want anyone to know what I'm about to be blessed with.
3) What's pleasing to Allah is pleasing to me. I want her to dress like the 1st lady that she is in public and behind closed doors that's for me to know.
4) Someone who covers their adornments. I want my wife to wear a dress that's a mix between from coming to America and Princess Leia from Star Wars.
5) Physical attraction is important to start off. Hence the phrase "love at first sight"'. I have met some pretty women who have instantly become ugly to me based off of their ugly spirit. True beauty is from the inside out. I'm not shallow but I do have standards.
*David 19 X*
1.A modest bride to me is one who submits her will to Allah for righteousness sake, a modest bride to me is one who has completely denied herself the ills of this world and Yakubs civilization, a modest bride to me is one who understands the order of God in the structure of the Nation of righteousness, a modest bride to me is one who is in the world but not of the world, a bride to me is one who does not seek favour from men who wish to see her downfall, a modest bride to me is one who is truly in love with the laws of Islam not for the sake of a man but for the sake of Allah who came in the person of Master Fard Muhammad.
2. Let's first understand modest “having or showing regard for the decencies of behaviour, speech, dress, etc. With that being said it is very important for me personally to have a modest bride, it is very essential to my growth in Islam as a man it is very essential that she be modest for the sake of being a proper help meet for myself.
I personally do not wish to have anything other than a modest bride for if I take on anything other than a modest bride then I will swallow Hellfire and nobody would be to blame but myself... for me it is important to have a modest bride because I do not wish or seek a woman of this world.
The Honourable Minister Louis Farrakhan said that " if you keep on doing what you're doing then you get what you deserve" so with that being said if I seek a woman who is not modest then I am asking for the direct opposite which means I don't want her to be decent in behaviour which is a big problem, which means I don't want her to be refined in speech which could be very problematic, and her dress the way she dresses is in complete opposition of my God (Master Fard Muhammad) the women of this world do not desire a righteous man they do not desire a man of God for if they did then their actions will prove so, with that being said, if I had a woman who is not modest, the most Honourable Elijah Muhammad said it will be a cold hell for me, it will be very very problematic to say the very least.
3. The question was do I prefer her dressed to please me on the wedding day or Allah? First I have to say that I personally do not believe in "wedding days" as your average person or Muslim does. I believe that the money spent on that day could be used in order to make the union of those two more of a peaceful transition (I need not name all the obvious things that a married couple needs to have) in my opinion a wedding is not MUCH more than a financial burden (This is David 19x's personal views on this matter, with that being said for the sake of answering your question I believe Allah is the Lord of the Worlds in which
I strive to submit my will to and I strive to submit my will to Allah (anything out of His will is direct opposition to His order and command) aka *Rational deceptive intelligence*... If I say I believe in Allah and desire for my bride to dress any old kind of way (or whatever freak thought I have in my mind is direct contrition to the Laws I say I believe in.
I don't desire nothing but Allah's will be done, again I desire a modest bride so that means that I MUST be a refined man (smiling) and if I deem Allah's way oppressive then I am not of Him. And if she deems Allah's way as oppressive she is not of Him. So long as I submit my will to Allah she is to submit her will to Allah and myself leading her (as the head closer to Him* Master Fard Muhammad*
4. I believe I described why I would want a modest bride in the above said.
5. The reason why I would want a modest bride is because I do not desire of that which is opposite of "Modest" in a Woman, and she should not desire the opposite of what is "Refined" in a Man. We will find that if we do proper investigation (courtship) COURTship... then we can eliminate a lot of heartache and pain. It is essential that the two are rooted in the ways and word of God and act accordingly. It is a big deal that she is modest because that shows me her character or lack thereof, that shows me which vibrational plane she is traveling on, that shows me her mind-set/mind state. Some things are just flashing warning signs...you see? And if I disregard all the signs and marry a "Ratchet" then I will (WE will produce bastard children) and as a result I will be punished for being so weak and rebellious because I did not settle down to a "WISE CHOICE" (He who findeth a Wife finds a good thing so says the Bible) But every woman is not wife material and every man is not Husband material.
~Gary Mahatmas Muhammad~
1. What is a modest bride to you?
When I think of a modest bride, I think of a woman that is humble and strives for righteousness in all of her doings. I see a woman whose thoughts, speech, dress and actions coming into alignment with God and the instructions he has given to the women of our Nation, the women of the New World. I see a woman that takes every action to safeguard the jewels that God has bestowed upon her physical and spiritual person. She protects her mind by feeding upon the words of our Saviours daily, she protects her body by wearing the clothing as prescribed and wonderfully displayed with the artistic gifts
Allah has placed with her. I see a woman that not only adheres to the safeguards that have been given to the women of God but 1 whom sincerely loves the safe guards she has been instructed giving her a greater longevity in the mighty trial of obeying the command of Allah till the end of her time among the faithful. A modest bride is a humble woman, a woman whom can be assured to give a man peace of mind and contentment while he lives. A modest bride is the only door for a man to enter the heaven he has long sought after.
That’s my modest bride.
2. How important is it for your bride to be modest?
Upon careful examination...
It's a matter of life and death for me and all that I stand for. If my wife isn't modest, it means the death of my ideas, my visions, my dreams and hopes as a man when it comes to the quality of my children, the atmosphere of my home and the eventual future fabric of my Nation. If my wife is immodest then she produces for me, children that are immodest. These children will then warrant the anger of God which then leads to their eventual chastisement and or destruction if not corrected.
Their destructions mean the end of me, the end of my ideas, my visions, my dreams, my future existence. Careful should the man choose the hand that rocks the cradle of his children. The future fabric of our Nation will be comprised of these children that we will birth into the world tomorrow and also the distant future. The future of my Divine Purpose, my Nation and the Universe relies upon the modesty of my bride. So if my destiny, the destiny of my Nation and the Universe are tied to the modesty of my wife, then this principal can "NEVER" be compromised less I be the trouble source for the down swing, of the Universal Creation of God.
3. With all the stigma surrounding Islam and this ridiculous notion that Muslim women are oppressed by Men! Would you prefer she dress to please you on your wedding day or Allah/God? Why?
The answer was and will forever be tantamount to please God.
Please let's examine this...
When a man has become wrapped in the mind of God, by studying the words of God, the will of God and living the life that God has asked him to live then he desires nothing from his bride but what God desires. When a Man sees his bride to be exemplifying the will of God even when it’s against his own personnel desires which results in an internal weakness, he knows inwardly that he has a bride that can help him out of his faults while ensuring the perpetual progression of his children into the favour of God. That man knows that his future is secure even from the weaknesses of his own self.
When I reflect on the day in-which my wife and I performed our vows, I will never forget the thoughts that I had as I waited to see my wife walk down the aisle. I knew at that moment the truth of what I chose for a bride would unveil itself in how my bride presented herself to me on a day that was the greatest moment of both of our lives at that time. I knew that if my wife had come down the aisle forsaking the principals of all that our God ,His Christ and his Angel stood for, all that I stood for, that it was a sign to me of the eventual destruction of my current and future life's work. The totality of my being was being weighed in the balance of my wife choosing to do what pleased God or what she thought would be pleasing to me, which at that time might have been mistakenly assumed to be the lewdness of this world. If my wife had come down the aisle forsaking her Islam, I might have smiled on the outside to save her the shame of my displeasure but I would have died at that moment on the inside and so would've been the case with my marriage.
I would've known deep on inside that she wasn't the 1 that I was looking for and would've begrudge the fact that so much time, effort and money was wasted on a woman that I thought was modest and in total love with our God. But for the pleasure of my God and myself my wife came down the aisle holding fast to her Islam covered head to toe while exemplifying the beauty and rarity of a beautiful pink lotus that had arisen from the murky depths of this world to say to me...
Brother, I am 1 that the devil thought he had but was preserved in the bosom of our God as a gift for you and for the world.
I knew I achieved the mighty achievement of Allah!
My heart overflowed with an emotion that I never experienced before with a woman. I believed at that moment, I experienced the purity of divine love. I saw the purity of divine love pouring out of the person of my bride to be.
My wife...
Afiya Mahatmas Muhammad
4. Describe your idea of a modest bride?
This can be ascertained from my previous answers
5. Why would you/why do you want a modest bride? Is there really a big deal about the way she looks?
A modest bride’s value is unequalled in this world. Modesty is the coveted virtue of God in woman. If you have a woman that is modest then you have within your possession a woman that was fashioned after the heart of God. She becomes the instrument that ensures your admittance into the hereafter, the promised land of God. This Promised Land is called the Golden age of man. This will be a time where the perfecting of creation will have transpired and your modest bride becomes the vehicle for the admittance of your seed into this glorious future. Your future at that point has no end.
Now to the importance of how a modest woman looks. The physical presentation of a woman in this hour tells us of the current condition of the woman's mind and her relationship with God. If a woman's mind isn't in alignment with the will of God, then she can never produce for you children that are in line with God, whom will receive the eternal blessings of the Father in that current condition. A man whom invests his seed in a woman that doesn't reflect modesty is a man that cares nothing about his future. This condition becomes a sign to a careful man that there's still some work to do before settling down on that choice to build his precious future.
When a woman knowingly or unknowingly violates the instructions of God when it comes to her apparel she places herself in unnecessary danger by attracting the destructive forces of society, men and circumstance that threatens the purity of her being. Her purity is what gives her, superb value. When her purity becomes defiled by vile, brutish or beast like characters, her superb value is no more less she draws the attention of God to repair what has been desecrated in a society that has run amuck.
Nevertheless, that will cause us to ask another question. Can a woman warrant the immediate help of God when she knowingly violated the instructions God gave to preserve her purity? How much time will it take to repair such a woman? Does the man in question have the patience and time for God to repair what has been brought asunder?
The repairing of a woman in this condition is so intensive, so painstaking that Allah has instituted heavy penalties for the man and the woman for defiling the purity of the female. What intelligent man will knowingly and willingly place himself in a darkened valley (a immodest woman) where the light of God is already waning? A man of this nature is destined for many dark days ahead. Days that he can avoid by gaining control of his lowers desires and demanding of himself to settle on no woman that hasn't settled on the commands of God. This will assure him a modest bride, a prosperous future for himself and his seed.
Thank you for this journey fellow Silhouettes. In conclusion...
~ Adornment, what a Science! Beauty, what a Weapon! Modesty, what Elegance ~ Coco Chanel
Until Next Time My Lovelies
~ Fashion.Silhouette. ~ X
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