~Young.Married & FABULOUS!~

Young. Married & FABULOUS!!

People People! It’s that time ONCE AGAIN!! WOOP WOOP! Did Mrs Hudson get you in the MOOD or WHAT!! I’m still shuffling singing while I type this haha J.  So of course I had to carry on the love train from my previous issue about A Modest Bride! Hey YOU, YES YOU! If you haven’t read it, don’t do yourself a disservice, go read it mayynn! I swear and I pray you won’t be disappointed BOOM!

Y.M.F {Young. Married & Fabulous} it all started with 6 couples! 7-8 questions and one blogger! I had to BEAT the answers out of them!! O_o ….teehee nah I really didn’t. They all were lovely hosts to interview and the pictures I have coming up, is nothing short of a blessing, I thank all of them from the bottom of my heart for their time, love and patience! {pours Scholer out for the homies lol } So why such a topic I hear you say? Again what does it have to do with modesty? Well my darling silhouettes remember I always say modesty isn’t just about how one styles themselves. It incorporates how one carries themselves, and this can be said for the partner whom you choose to be with and eventually marry. Having a Husband and or Wife is the perfect Modest Accessory, in the sense that each one compliments each other effortlessly. Your union is the perfect melody comforted by the right lyrics.

In a world like this we know that marriage is somewhat laughed at and not taken seriously, as we see popular celebrities filing for divorce left, right and center. I recall watching Wendy Williams sometime this week and she mentioned that eventually marriage would be ruled out a good few years down the line. {I’m quoting her loosely, but it’s more or less what she said}. I can see her point with the perception of people now a days, however I respectfully disagree, those who understand the sanctity of marriage will continue to push the agenda of that family unit, and in the highest elite of society please believe they are married, and not only married but very very meticulous about who is chosen as a Husband and Wife to carry on their lineage.

This is what we have with these six beautiful couples! A representation of Union. Power. Love and Understanding for carrying on the lineage of their being into the next generation. Being young and married is the new life force and light to bring into this dark world, full of death, destruction and lies. Even in a time like this, finding your true love, marrying them and striving to be a shining example is just the anecdote to heal the world of its wounds. Family Unit. Love & Spiritual, Intellectual, Physical and Social Wealth is the name of the game. And these beautiful people are just a small testimony of this! ^_^. 

To help me on this journey, I have three amazing helpers and authors whose testimonies in each of their books will make you or at least get you to consider how you’ve been looking for this thing called L.O.V.E and M.A.R.R.I.A.G.E. {Wouldn’t it be interesting if I Ms Fashion. Silhouette possessed all these tools to making a marriage work when my time comes, and I completely failed! With a capital F! OHHHH LAWWWD save my life! Lol *cries inside} alright let’s move on lol >>>

First to the stand!>>> Dr Neil Clark Warren Ph.D

Page 84 Passionate Love Can Make or Break a Relationship

… “ I am deeply convinced that any two people who choose to marry need to maintain clear minds until the moment they say “I do”. Because of this, I believe in sexual abstinence prior to marriage. Sexual intercourse before marriage is a clear act of commitment! Once you have become sexually involved with a potential mate, your ability to think clearly and objectively becomes impossible. That’s one reason premarital intercourse is destructive.

If we want to have strong families that emerge from wise selections of marriage partners, we need to overhaul our reasoning about the relationship between love and sex. If we continue telling single persons that sexual intimacy is healthy at whatever stage of their relationship, they will continue getting married for all the wrong reasons.

Here is a startling fact: The selection you make of a marriage partner may well have more to do with the quality of your marriage than everything you do after getting married”

Dr Ava Muhammad

Chapter 3 pages 23-27 What It Means To Be A “Help-Meet”

…. “ A major part of being a helpmeet is motivating your husband to change. Most of us, male and female, enter marriage with little or no comprehension of how to be married. We lack the skills to meet one another’s needs.

Each has to teach the other how to do that. A woman is a natural-born teacher. But even if you are born to do something, you still need training. The best performers practice. Therefore, if you are going to be successful as a teacher in your marriage, you have to possess qualities that will prepare your student to listen to your instruction. Since the man is the authority in the house, this is important.

Prayer and meditation gives us an inner peace that allows us to respond quietly to a stressful situation. The quiet spirit is a quality that is not only pleasing to men; it is pleasing to Allah (God).

A man needs admiration like he needs air to breathe. Pull any book on relationships off the shelf, or just look around you, and you will bear witness to this truth. Men will do almost anything to gain admiration and will search for someone to love and respect them. You can be that someone by being sincerely interested in your husband and really trying to understand what moves him. He needs the confidence and security of knowing you won’t react negatively to his ideas. Once he feels such confidence, he can relax, rest and be himself with you, and he will come home at night.

…Chapter 4 page 29-32 What A Woman Needs From A Man

… The Honourable Elijah Muhammad has taught us that it is the duty of the man to protect and provide for his wife. In the book of Ephesians, it teaches a husband is to cherish his wife. This means he is to protect her, not only from physical harm, but from physical discomfort and from emotional distress. There are general areas of protection, which all women need. However, women are unique and a husband has to find out where his wife is particularly vulnerable. What frustrates her? What makes her afraid?

The honourable Elijah Muhammad has also taught us “it is the nature of a woman to demand good treatment”. A man must protect his wife from unnecessary financial stress. She is not structured to handle tremendous amounts of pressure due to a lack of funds. Allah {God} created her for His pleasure and to facilitate His plan, and He never intended for her to be without anything.

Dear brother, it is important to know whether your wife can handle working to make ends meet while taking care of the children and the house. Allah {God} intended for her to be in a spacious, pleasing environment, where she can rear the children properly and give you the care and comfort you need.

According to the Holy Qur’an, what the woman earns belongs to her. The bills are your responsibility. So if what she earns is used to help you pay the bills you need to be aware that she is doing more than God created her to do. If she is giving you children—divine life—you are blessed. If she is earning money on top of that, you are receiving grace and mercy. It is a mistake to take her contribution for granted.

A woman needs to be appreciated. Promise yourself you will find at least one thing each day that you can express appreciation for. Compliments are important to women, and the language you use is critical. Be specific, not general. It is the nature of a woman to seek to please a man. She absolutely needs to know you are satisfied with her and with what she does for you.

Finally, it is important to know experts tell us that after five years of marriage, the husband becomes responsible for any discord in the relationship. When you first married your wife, you were dealing with a woman who responded to life based upon how her father, mother, siblings, friends and other men treated her in the past. As the authority, the leader in the house, you create an atmosphere that your wife and children have to cope with. You can be violent, offensive, cold, distant. You can be peaceful, warm, tender and compassionate. You are powerful. You can make a woman into the friend, lover and help meet you want her to be by first being that yourself..”

Last but not least!

Nuri Muhammad

Chapter 21 Three Sides of Why?

… “There are three sides to “Before you say I do” and within the three sides is a recipe that keeps us from one day saying “I don’t”. In the Bible, (Matthew 19:7-8) Jesus is asked by his disciples about divorce and Jesus responds, I don’t know anything about divorce, “… for it was not as such in the beginning”. In other words, Jesus is saying divorce is not natural.

The real making of a marriage doesn’t come from just setting the timer on the oven. If you want to make anything you have to have a recipe, the right ingredients, and if you have a recipe that has an ingredient list that you decide to ignore, if the recipe calls for flour you don’t put corn meal into the cake mix, no you follow the recipe. The same holds true in a marriage or you will complain, “ this marriage don’t taste right”. Why because you ignored the fact that the recipe called for something specific but you said “ I’m still gonna bake the cake”. The three core points in this subject matter “Before you say I do” is first, what is your motive for getting married. Second, the procedure to say “I do” and then the third, the ingredients that go into making a lasting and successful marriage”…

WOOOOOOOO I KNOWWWWW it was a lot to read! I’m sorry *cries inside*I couldn’t deprive you of juicy knowledge! However I can lead you to the fun part! The beautiful testimonies of SIX COUPLES, 7-8 ANSWERS AND 1 BLOGGER! LET’S GOOOOOO >>>>>>> 

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Faith & Finide

Wife

1) Why did you get married?

 I got married because I met 'The one' and we clicked, and most importantly because it was God's perfect will.        

                          

 2)What does happily married mean to you?

 Happily married to me means being married to my best friend and Gods will and enjoying every blessed day.

                             

 3) How does it feel being married and young!

It feels great.

                                             

4)  What are the beautiful things about being married?

The beautiful things about being married is I get to be with the love of my life full time, lol. I have a sense of responsibility as it is now my responsibility to take care of my home and husband, I have a partner, confidant, playmate and lover all in one. I feel satisfied.  

                                                

5) Does the Fun, Love & Passion stop once you say I do?

 No it doesn't. That's when it actually begins. It’s like an adventure.                        

  

6) What is it you love about your Husband?

 I love the fact that he has principles and He lives by them. I also love the fact that He's God fearing and also a good leader. I could go on and on if you want J.                   

7) How long have you been married?

We have been married for 1 year and 8 months.

"I love the fact that he has principles, and he lives by them"

Husband

(1)Why did you get married?

I got married because I found my best friend

(2) What does happily married mean to you?

To me happily married means having that one person that will stand with you both in good and bad times

(3) How does it feel being married and young!

 It feels completely normal, and it's beneficial because you are able to build a formidable foundation for the future of your kids and take dating steps that may propel you to the height of your career as you have enough time on your hands.

(4) What are the beautiful things about being married? 

Everything including the good and the bad from having that friend to talk to always, to having that friend to annoy always just because you can get away with it!

"I love everything, her smile, the way she talks.."

(5) Does Fun, Love & Passion stop once you say I do?

 Definitely not!! It just changes, I mean the understanding of those words. Love now transcends from being a word to an act you practice every day,  passion becomes a force that keeps you wanting the best for your family and fun becomes both casual and intimate moments ranging from  jokes to outings to sitting watching a movie or goofing around with the kid.

(6) What is it you love about your Wife? 

Everything, her smile, the way she talks, her ability to keep pushing for the best and her dedication to her family

(7) Is being married really that important, as opposed to being with someone where no marriage certificate is necessary?

Being married is important, it gives you a sense of lawful responsibility. Decisions now have to be for the benefit of your home and you know you have to keep working to make your relationship better as peace in marriage comes from the wives happiness.

(8) How long have you been married?

Almost two years!

"He is very reliable.."

Ejiro & Naley

Wife

1) Why did you get married?

I got married because I knew I had found my soul mate and there wasn’t anyone else in the world that would be as perfect for me than him.

2)What does happily married mean to you?

Being happily married means, having someone you can share both good times and bad with, understanding each other, guiding and protecting each other and feeling content with each other. Regardless of what comes your way.

3) How does it feel being married and young!

   It’s surreal, for me I got pregnant immediately after getting married, so it was a bit of a roller coaster (hormones and all) however it feels good to have a young family, as you can all grow together, which makes understanding much easier.

4) What are the beautiful things about being married?

  I’ll have to say, knowing that you have someone who has your back no matter what. And someone you can share your life with.

5) Does the Fun, Love & Passion stop once you say I do?

No, definitely not! It even gets more exciting because once you’re married there are no boundaries.

  

6) What is it you love about your Husband?

He is very reliable especially when it comes to being there. I love his eagerness to always help people.

7) How long have you been married?

  8 months now!  

"She is very understanding.."

Husband

1. Why did you get married?

 I got married because I found the love of my life. I was already lonely and seeing her was the fulfillment of life's destiny. I couldn't wait but to seal the knot.

2. What does happily married mean to you?

 Happily married means the word happily married to be honest. It's replica in the sense of facts is allowing to see an improvement in the single-hood I was already living. The understanding and fulfillment I have experienced in the last few months of my marriage is a program to be shown as happily married. Nutshell Happily married means Satisfactory. =-D

3. How does it feel being married and young!  

Oh God being married and young is the best thing ever. I feel excited and fulfilled. It shows a new opening for life. It feels like a joke yet reality. it's actually reassuring when you have your right partner as a WIFE or HUSBAND. The feeling is REAL. 

4. What are the beautiful things about being married?

Beautiful things about being married:- expansion of family. Expectation of becoming a parent. More responsibilities added to make you more focused and responsible. Excitement of having the dream you have always wanted come to pass. Filling the gap of being lonely. Having a best friend for life. It's numerous *pensive*

5. Does the Fun, Love & Passion stop once you say I do?

 well this question is tricky but it shouldn't be as such. Truth is that the passion blazes more than you expect in my opinion though. immediately I said I do, I was loosed to passion. It became so good that I cannot spill out the details of the plight that followed. I guess the reason why I have more passion is because I love the woman I married passionately.

6. What is it you love about your Wife? 

Oh wow!!! A lot. . . I will mention just a few. my wife is polite. she is very understanding. she is a wife indeed when it comes to support. I like her charisma and drive for what she believes in. I like the way she adapts to learning and her willingness to listen.

7. Is being married really that important, as opposed to being with someone where no marriage certificate is necessary? 

well answering this question is in the face of my beliefs and religion. It shows regard for the couple. It shows responsibility. Being married is that important. That certificate reassures the couple that this contract should be held up. It's a pride to be experienced in my opinion.

8. How long have you been married? 

8months now.

Malikah & Khairi

Wife

1. Why did you get married?

I've always had marriage in my life plan. When I chose to marry Khairi, it was because I saw a lot in him that I always wanted to be in the man I chose. He had to love God. He had to be a Fruit of Islam. He had to show that he was a responsible person, not lazy. And I like a good conversation, so he must be smart. Khairi was all those, even when we were 17. So when we got married at 19 I had already seen in him the things that I had already had an idea of. So I was willing to marry him because he already showed so much potential. A man with those characteristics only gets better. :D  

2. What does happily married mean to you?

There's no one formula to a happy marriage, to Me., but I definitely think that a happy marriage is a balanced marriage. Too much happiness means someone is probably not being honest. And too much arguing is never good. There's a balance to everything. You'll find that based on the circumstance, the time, the stage of growth and development, or the mood, that you have to be a different way at different times. Sometimes you'll have be supportive, other times you may have to be more honest. Sometimes we'll be understanding, other times we have to be... well, more honest. Sometimes you're going to be easy to accept a disagreement, other times you may have to be honest. J You know what I mean? 

"He's brilliant! i love the way he thinks!"

Also being happily married to me, means being able to openly be yourself at any time around your partner, without reservations or apprehensions of being judged or misunderstood. It's also being able to accept who your partner is without passing judgment or condemning them. It's a freeing feeling being able to express yourself with your mate, when your spirit is high or low. You may not always agree with their expression, but allowing each other to be who you are, brings you closer. A lot of people think that being happily married means that you will always be happy. WRONG!!!  J Going into marriage believing that will set you up for disappointment and failure. Being happily married is loving and accepting them at their worst and loving them (with enthusiasm) at their best.

3. How does it feel being married and young!

It's great! Slumber party everyday with my bestie! Being able to say 50 years from now that I watched him grow and develop and that he was there through mines; that's a beautiful thing. We have fun together.

Plus, almost all of my friends are married as well so I never felt like I was "missing out on a social life". 

4. What are the beautiful things about being Married?

The growth. The individual growth that I've attained from what he's knowingly or unknowingly taught me. The growth we've attained together in our relationship. We come so far from when we were first married. We KNOW each other. Lastly the spiritual growth, because you're going to have to call on The Lord sometimes, let me tell you. But also, my relationship with God has gotten stronger because I always find myself grateful for the blessings. Always give the credit for a happy marriage to God!

5. Does the Fun, Love & Passion stop once you say I do?

Not really. It changes a little once you have children. It doesn't have to change drastically. You just have to learn to get adjusted to it and plan accordingly, and find the balance in family time, alone time, and us time.

6. What is it you love about your Husband?

He’s brilliant! I love the way he thinks. He's constantly got his mind on an idea or a goal.

He’s very straight forward and an honest person, he's not phony, doesn't put on airs for anyone and because of that, his heart is pure. Who he is, is who he is. He's calm. He's responsible. He's very kind hearted. So many things I could say about him.

7. How long have you been Married?

Going on 5 years in August.

Husband Questions

1.Why did you get married?

Growing up in the Nation, marriage was always something I looked forward to as a young Jr. FOI. Knowing that marriage was half my faith and watching my parents persevere in their marriage made it attractive to me. As I grew older and faced the trials of life, marriage became less and less of a life goal. When I met my soon to be wife, she reawakened that desire which laid dormant inside of me. Even then, fear caused me to shy away from the inevitable. As we know Allah’s plan is always sure, He created the circumstances to help me to overcome my fear and marry the love of my life, who is a beautiful MGT.

2. What does happily married mean to you?

To me, happily married is to have a common mission. The journey to accomplish that mission along with your best friend produces a high that cannot be matched by any drug. Each obstacle that you overcome, every thought that you make tangible, even the hard trials that you face, all contribute to a happy marriage.

"I lover her mind, spiritual grounding.. and how appealing she is to my eye lol"

3. How does it feel being married and young!

Good, in a world like we live in, it isn't the most popular thing so it's that much cooler to me.

4. What are the beautiful things about being married?

The beautiful things about marriage are too many to name but my favourite part is going to sleep, and waking up next to your best friend

5. Does the Fun, Love & Passion stop once you say I do?

No not necessarily, it's a very serious thing but as long as you always remind yourself of why you said I do, it will keep you in a courtship-like mind-set. The more you grow together and learn each other, the more fun you can have. You just have to desire it.

6. What is it you love about your Wife?

I love her mind, and spiritual grounding first and foremost. Then, I love how appealing she is to my eye, I love how good of a mother she is to our children, I love her cooking and how appealing she is to my eye (lol)

7. Is being married really that important, as opposed to being with someone where no marriage certificate is necessary?

Yes it is, the paper isn't important. But the paper is symbolic of the commitment that you make toward each other. That's one foundational principle of marriage, commitment. Without that, no relationship can last.

8. How long have you been married?

Easiest question, hhmmmmm???? Let me think.........this summer will make 5 years. Lol.....I think???? Lol jk. This summer will make 5 years.

Zaynah & Oz

Wife

1.      Why did you get married?

My husband and I got married when I was 18. And even though I was “too young” according to most people around me, I was just sure. Not sure of the “how” we would get married. But I was sure of him. Amongst all of the infatuation I had for him, I knew marriage was no play thing. I knew that he could make me happy. But more importantly I was sure that I could endure whatever struggles marriage brought, as long as we were in it together. He has such a contagious and over-whelming love for Islam that I knew he’d make an excellent help-meet.

2. What does happily married mean to you?

To me, being happily married means that you and your spouse are able to recognize the beauty in the struggle to become one. I don’t see happiness in marriage as just being in a good mood all the time, or agreeing with your spouse on everything, because the reality is, it’s not that way all of the time. So does that mean you are unhappy in marriage? Not at all. In every, and I mean every single trial that he and I went through when we seemed at odds with one another, whether big or small, when the work was put in to overcome them, we always ended up closer than ever. So when we witness the benefit of overcoming trials between one another, in all of our moments we have together, we are happy!

3. How does it feel being Married and young!

It feels good! Being young, and having Allah (God) at the centre of our marriage, there’s a natural tendency to change, to grow. So there’s no stagnancy. I love who he is as a husband, father, brother, and friend. The man I married at 18 is not the same man I’m married to today. He has grown in so many different ways so in a way the love gets renewed.

"I love about my husband, he is unapologetically genuine.."

4. What are the beautiful things about being married?

Some of the beautiful things about being married is that my husband shares my faith. I remember times where I showed some weakness in my faith and he was right there to snap me out of it lol. Both of our desires and goals, though different, intertwine with one another. So achieving my goals will only strengthen his, and vice versa.

5. Does the Fun, Love & Passion stop once you say I do?

Absolutely not. I feel that after marriage those things get put to the test. If we aren’t able to have the fun, love, and passion after “I do”, then it may not have been as real as we thought in the beginning. When there’s constant work on self, then there’s constant growth of the love of self. I’ve come to know that the more in love I am with myself, the stronger my love is for my husband. As a result, I have the energy and desire to keep the fun, love and passion alive.

6. What is it you love about your Husband?

I don’t have enough time to answer this question lol. But in short, one of the things I love about my husband is that he is unapologetic-ally genuine. He is not afraid to show love and care. Not just with me but with those around him. I’ve watched him call a brother or family member at a random time just to apologize for something he remembered he’d done recently that may have offended them. He always wants to know if he has ill-effected another person; and if so, he takes the necessary steps to make things right and to improve for the future. I love that he has so much strength when it comes to truth.

7. How long have you been Married?

Over 4 years

"I find myself staring at her often..I love my Wife"

Husband

1. Why did you get married?

I wanted to be complete. It is said that marriage is half of faith so I needed my better half. Secondly, I didn’t want to be alone. It was whack, mediocre. I had goals to accomplish and having a wife would help me accomplish them.

2. What does happily married mean to you?

It means to be Muslim, all in the sense of the word. Striving to do Allah’s will together, making our fathers happy (MFM Master Fard Muhammad, TMHEM The Most Honourable Elijah Muhammad, and THMLF The Honourable Minister Louis Farrakhan), building a family bond, acquiring power, and God-ship. Just doing His will with the one you love.

3.How does it feel being Married and young!

It feels good because you inspire a world to be responsible. Gods. That’s our job.

4. What are the beautiful things about being Married?

Having help, growing into perfection or Allah, mastering a perfect union, making two opposites become one.

"Till the casket drop"

5. Does the Fun, Love & Passion stop once you say I do?

Heck no. Marriage is what you make it. I never plan for it to stop. I plan for it to continue. My formula is to listen, to be humble, admit when I am wrong as often as necessary. This creates life force, love, passion, and fun. I never stopped flirting with my wife.

6. What is it you love about your Wife?

She reminds me of Allah. Her expression and view of Islam makes me feel like I have cheat-codes or a vantage point that makes me grow more. I love growing and mastering my life. She is a perfect help-meet for that task, by applying pressures that either burst pipes or create diamonds.

I am in love with my wife because she challenges me. I’m in love with my wife because she is bad(gorgeous). I find myself staring at her often. I’m in love with my wife because I love love love her potential. I see greatness in her and it is overwhelming because I’m a part of her greatness. I’m in love with my wife because she’s God-fearing.

7.Is being Married really that important, as opposed to being with someone where no marriage certificate is necessary?

Of course. Being simply “boyfriend and girlfriend” you can abort the process of becoming a god. Being married, you make your word bond by you putting your life where your mouth is. Marriage itself is a contract with Allah to do His will together, being true to each other, morally, spiritually, physically, financially, mentally, keeping your duty to Allah that you will handle each other as a gift, with care and love. A relationship without marriage, is faking the real-deal.

8. How long have you been Married

Almost 5 happy years

Rashidah & Matthew

1. Why did you get married?

I got married because I knew that Love and Happiness in my life could exist with Matt in it. Not that I wasn't happy by myself, because Soul Searching is a beautiful thing, and as long as I have Allah I'm never alone or unhappy...... but He makes it better by completing me and my Faith.

2. What does happily married mean to you?

Happily Married to me means forever Trying to be better in your marriage as a union and better with self, always finding time for laughter amongst everyday life confusion, and being able to give the best criticism to your spouse and still loving the hell out of them afterwards ;) 

3. How does it feel being married and young!

It feels amazing being Married and even better being Young and Married because there is room for growth and when you can grow with someone you get even more connected to them to the point where your union really becomes One.

"He is a make it happen man, give you the shirt off my back type man.."

4. What are the beautiful things about being married?

I'll name three beautiful things about being married, because I really could go on and on ;)..... but being able to show your beautiful and scary side, and still be loved, being able to pray with someone and know you both are praying for each other, and to have someone to wash your hair when you don't feel like it ha!.

5. Does the Fun, Love & Passion stop once you say I do?

The Fun, Love and Passion shouldn't stop once you say "I Do", but it can when you lose focus on the prize which is your marriage, but we all can lose focus sometimes, so it’s up to US to not allow it to die by always embarking on new journeys and conquering new goals together, and doing those things that made you happy individually and happy together.

6. What is it you love about your Husband?

My husband is amazing, the real definition of a FOI. He is a "Make it Happen" Man, a "Give you the shirt off my back" type of Man. And I admire Him every day for that. His love for Allah( God) and our Nation is one of my first boxes checked off when we were courting and that alone put Love in my heart and mind for him.

7. How long have you been married? 

Only 4 Months and counting....but honestly and I'm not being dramatic it feels like Four Years <3

Husband

1. Why did you get married?

Simply put, I got married because Allah allowed someone (my wife) to enter my life that is worthy, righteous, and will help me in becoming a better servant of Allah's will.

2. What does happily married mean to you?

 Happily married to me comes right from The Honourable Elijah Muhammad where he said to us, "Agreement is the basis of love." When two people agree to work together, communicate, set expectations, have transparency, etc and so on - the love present facilitates the ideal of being happily married.

3. How does it feel being married and young! 

Feels absolutely great, although it takes patience with ourselves and our spouse. The old adage, Rome wasn't built in a day is true, anything of value takes time and work to get right.

4. What are the beautiful things about being married?

The most beautiful part of marriage to me is having someone, which one, gets to share all of life's ups and downs with. That no matter what happens my wife and I are in this life together. That's a beautiful feeling.

"She is one of the strongest people I have ever encountered"

5. Does the Fun, Love & Passion stop once you say I do? 

No, it doesn't stop - but it gradually changes. The comfort level between two people changes when you see them every day. And the expression of love between two people changes also. It may not feel like the spark one feels when you first meet someone, but it's more satisfying to the soul when you can genuinely be yourself with another person and not hold anything back. Fun, love and passion are natural by-products of being yourself with someone in my opinion.

6.  What is it you love about your Wife?

I love my wife's spirit. My wife has the spirit to help, love and serve others. She is a genuine person - and she absolutely loves God. When a woman is in love with God and has dedicated her life to serving him, as is the case with my wife, she becomes inspiration for her husband. My wife is a warrior, and knows that God is backing her up - she is one of the strongest people I have ever encountered and has a natural way of letting God take the wheel in her life.

7.  Is being married really that important, as opposed to being with someone where no marriage certificate i necessary?

Yes, it represents commitment and a willingness to share life's responsibility with another person. In essence, it represents "burning your boat" - meaning one should have the mind-set that we are dedicated to growing together regardless of whom or what.

8. How long have you been married? 

4 months and counting!

Jazmin & Nasser

Wife

1. Why did you get married?

A: I decided to get married because I had reached the pinnacle of my success as a single woman. I knew if I wanted to grow and evolve that I would have to put myself in a position to accept more blessings therefore; marriage was the next and only step for me to reach a higher level of success and achievement in my life.

2. What does happily married mean to you?

A: Happily married means that the two people in the committed marriage accept the other as they are and provide a space for the other to freely and unapologetically be themselves. It doesn't mean that change and evolution won't occur but there has to be a space free of judgment and chastisement.

3.How does it feel being Married and young?

A: It feels like to whom much is given, much is required. We have a responsibility and obligation to our culture to expose the good that marriage provides for a man and a woman. Of course it has down sides but everything of worth has a challenge attached to it and marriage is no different. It's a blessing yet, it takes a lot of time and effort to make it possible. 

"I wish I met him sooner in life, so I could have done everything with him"

4. What are the beautiful things about being Married?

A: The most beautiful thing is having someone to do everything with. My husband truly is my best friend. I couldn't imagine what life would be like without him and I wish I met him sooner in life so I could have done everything with him. Additionally, my husband allows me to express a side of myself that I don't willingly show others and it's beautiful that we can see one another in a light that no one else does.

5. Does the Fun, Love & Passion stop once you say I do?

A. I would say it changes and can be enhanced. What we considered fun in courtship isn't that fun anymore. And the love and passion has evolved. Intimacy is so much more than the physical so I enjoy times when he and I can lay in bed with the candles at 2am and laugh about an episode of a different world. Or waking up realizing we literally wrapped our bodies around the other the entire night consciously unconscious.

6. What is it you love about your Husband?

A. I love many things about my husband but I love most of all his love for education. He teaches and trains 7 days a week. He's constantly trying to improve and trying to improve the life of others. He wants all that has been promised to him and wants to build a kingdom for his family and his people.

7. How long have you been Married?

A: We have been lovingly married for a year and a half.

"..She is amazing in every sense of the word ;)"

Husband

1) Why did you get married?

We got married because we loved each other, we loved that we challenged, complimented, and encouraged each other to be a better version of ourselves. As Muslims we also believe that marriage is half our faith.

2) What does happily married mean to you?

Happily married means to have heaven on earth. When I am with her I am at ease, I have a sense of peace and tranquillity. When we are together we can move mountains.

3) How does it feel being married and young? 

There are pros and cons to being young and married. The pros are you don't have to worry about who you will spend the rest of your life with, or having a companion to do everything with. The cons are, there aren't many young and married people who have similar ideals and like attainment to share a similar bond with. As a young married couple we have to continue to be a shining example for other people striving to reach this goal.

4) What are the beautiful things about being married? 

The beautiful things about being married are you can have a stress free mind when it comes to who you will spend the rest of your life with. A lot of times people make decisions or manoeuvres based off of trying to attract their eventual lifelong husband or wife. They spend time, they spend money and most times it does not work in their favor. When you have identified your husband or wife at an early age -- Your time and money is spent wisely and constructively. Being young and married is a major key to more success. 

5) Does the Fun, Love & Passion stop once you say I do? 

When you get married, The fun, love, and passion only increases. Unless you are a boring, non-fun, dry, stale, robotic type of person -- if that's the case then the fun will cease and it will become work in your marriage.

6) What is it you love about your Wife?

I love everything about my wife -- she is amazing in every sense of the word ;)

7) Is being married really that important, as opposed to being with someone where no marriage certificate is necessary?

There are tons of benefits for men and women in marriage. The benefits for men are as follows according to various studies. Married men live longer, married men eat healthier, married men have a better sex life, married men are more responsible, and married men are healthier overall.

8) How long have you been married?

We have been married since 11.2.14 -- A year and a half, depending on when you read this.

In closing, it is said that married people are sometimes the worst advocate for marriage, as they make it look boring! >_<! I'm sure by now the testimonies of the young husbands and wives has inspired you in some way, regardless of religious preference, knowledge is knowledge right! And inspiration comes from everyone and everything! 

“ When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible” ~ When Harry Met Sally

Until next time my lovelies

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