~ They Say “Nasty Put Some Clothes On!” ~

 

 My SILHOUETTES! Here we are again, with my 12^th issue and many things to share. Yes as you may see I opened up with one of Destiny Child’s classic songs from the 2001 Survivor Album “Nasty Girl”. An interesting video to say the least (smile) and even more interesting when you read the lyrics. So why the video I hear you say, what’s the point she’s trying to make? WELP! In light of the star that is Beyoncé and the subject of modesty, which we all know is the basis of every issue that I do. A blessed individual by the name of The Honourable Minister Louis Farrakhan was presented a question by a beautiful sister (Tahirah X) in which she had asked “What is the specific role of the female artist…the Beyoncé’s, the Rihanna’s…Nicki Minaj was in the city…and for those in my age bracket…What is our specific role and what is their specific role as female artists?”

The answer he pleasantly gave received major backlash mostly due to snippets and opinions of websites and writers focusing on certain words, sentences and phrases he said without looking fully at the interview itself.

In this issue I will attempt to dissect what was really said AND how all of this pertains to Modesty! Don’t lock off or cast me away now just because I said Farrakhan lol…..alright here we go >>>>> 

The basis of the NASTY GIRL video was playfully pulling on the presentation or lack thereof of the female (of all colours) and encouraged her to PUT SOME CLOTHES ON because no man wanted a “hot female that’s been around the block female” and it’s quite funny and ironic how the way the females are dressed in that video is the same way women are dressed and depicted here in 2015. Coincidence! ….I THINKS NOT lol. Throughout each of my issues you and I have gone on a journey of how women used to be portrayed and how they used to dress, from class, elegance and refinement right through to the modern times, looking like hoe’s, disrespected and stamped with a “Stereotype”. The art of femininity has been lost, washed away in the coldness and violent current of Niagara Falls, but I ask you today can we reclaim what we once had…A STANDARD…and make it an everlasting TREND? I definitely think so! However before we do, we have to, have to, HAVE TO be a scientist and ask questions...prod...poke and research the so called “information” the media may put out about our favourite artists, actors, writers, dancers, religious leaders so on and so forth.

We {including me...so please don’t think I’m preaching ;)} have to get out of this “ZOMBIE MENTALITY” of going along with the first one that GRUNTS and believing everything that this writer, or blog site says without going away and doing our own research. Why? Because being able to think for yourself, study for yourself and come to your own conclusion amidst what the masses say. Makes you, for a better word…UNIQUE.  Waka Flocka said it best on his recent interview on The Breakfast Club, in which he stated that nobody wants to be different anymore, everyone is the same. You go to the club everyone is wearing the same thing, drinking the same thing, and females posing the same way. Creativity has been lost. I commended him immensely on the powerful words he was saying! {I urge everyone to go and listen to his full interview! POWERFUL STUFF} 

With that being said he is just one of the artists baring witness to what I’ve been discussing and have been addressing in previous issues.

 What Minister Farrakhan REALLY Said

Vs

What the “Media” and so called Articles Said.

So now we get down to the meat! {Pulls out BBQ grill ready to cook O-O} I’m hoping you watched the video in full and listened to the whole context of what he was saying. Some may still disagree with what he said…well let’s BREAK IT DOWN!

You and I cannot deny the demoralisation of women today, and how we are looked at as a piece of meat and or a toy thing to play with instead of what we rightly are, Mothers of Civilisation. The word MOTHER is such a powerful statement meaning:

 (Often as noun mothering) Bring up (a child) with care and affection:

‘The art of mothering’

Look after (someone) kindly and protectively, sometimes excessively so:

‘She mothered her husband, insisting he should take cod liver oil in the winter’

So we understand that it means to take care, to protect, bring up etc. these are all powerful words given to a female as her responsibility, not just for her child, but for Civilisation- {The World} and if we disrespect her then we disrespect The World. Remember it is said that the standard is not measured by the Male but by the Female. Still not convinced? Still wondering what this has to do with Modesty, Farrakhan, Beyoncé, Rihanna and Nicki Minaj? O_o OK let me give you another example lol. In the word Mother there is MOT and HER.  

MOT simply means: (also MOT test)

(In the UK) a compulsory annual test for safety and exhaust emissions of motor vehicles of more than a specified age.

HER simply means:  (pronoun) used as the object of a verb or preposition to refer to a female person or animal previously mentioned or easily identified.

Where am I going with this I hear you say? Well MOT is a compulsory test as explained there, within the UK that looks over the maintenance and up keep of the vehicle making sure it is safe to be driven on the road. And if by any chance any part of the car has not been kept or something is off then that specific car fails the test. Well if we look at the word mother again and its definition you can see that the Mother’s role is the maintenance and upkeep not only of her child/ren but the upkeep and standard of the world. So I ask you have the women {Mother} been MOT’d? Lol or have we failed and are failing at the upkeep of our world, this world and civilisation? Yes it is a heavy weight and responsibility to put on a female I hear you say, and what about the man?! He has responsibility too!!

Well YES…yes he does, however the STANDARD will never rise until US as females make it so!

The female psyche is a complicated BUT BEAUTIFUL THING! We are so in tune with ourselves to a certain degree, WHEN it comes to Males, that we know how to control them! {DON’T LOOK AT ME LIKE THAT YOU KNOW IT’S TRUE HAHA} I mean ladies come now! We see a gentleman that we like or we hear about a party that a club is having and we mentally and physically prepare for that occasion. Planning the dress, hair, toes all the way right down to the eyelash we are going to buy {smile} and WE KNOW from that particular dress we wear what kind of response we want to illicit from the opposite sex. So much so that when he sees us, BOOM he can’t help but come over, compliment you on your dress, ask you for a dance and then the next thing you know you and him are in the club/bar or wherever your gentleman caller may be grinding it up, while he mentally makes an imprint of you in his mind…from your look, down to your smell, touch, feel…ok let me not carry on! (BIG SMILE) <<< YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN! So if this is true and it is, don’t you think what the Minister is saying is right and exact?  No? Ok let’s go further.

You may be saying, the likes of Rihanna, Nicki Minaj and Beyoncé are their own people… they are not our role models, they are just entertainers, leave them alone. Well no I beg to differ, it’s because they are entertainers, they automatically become role models whether they like it or not. It’s a part of their responsibility regardless to whether they admit to it, it comes with the job. Kendrick Lamar said the following in his interview on The Breakfast Club…

"We have a handful right now, but I think every artist should always be responsible for how they go about marketing themselves or putting their music or you know their words together. Because this was something I didn't understand until I went out on these roads and talked to these kids, they take my music very seriously, so with that being said; I know that they take the next artists music very seriously.

Charlamagne Tha God: Probably Not!

Kendrick Lamar: No they do! No real talk because the real life that the artist went through, for kids in this new generation it may just be a trend for them, until they go out there and get themselves killed... you feel what I'm saying.? So how I put my words together, for me personally is a strategic way, I'm not just glorifying the streets or what not...it's a reality check, but it's for the better at the end of the day"

“But Them Nay-Sayers Though!”

On one video link of the Ministers interview I casually began to scroll and view the comments of individuals voicing their opinion of the matter. Some had said

“He’s a pervert”

“She’s not YOUR WIFE”

“Stay out of THEIR BUSINESS”

“He’s a misogynist!”

“Maintainer? I can’t get past that word, she’s not property!”

Hmmm and a side eye to some of them comments…did you know that in the Gypsy community over here in the UK and the USA they actually have morals. SHUT UP FASHION.SILHOUETTE. NO THEY BLOODY DON’T! YES YES THEY DO! As crazy as their life may seem, and we may not agree with everything they do or how they choose to live their lives, at the end of the day they all have one common cause which will never go away. A STRONG COMMUNITY.  When it comes to the female they say her name and her reputation is worth more than gold. If her name is tarnished or she isn’t a virgin then she, her mother and her family have a hard time finding a gypsy man to court and marry her. You may say no that’s a bit backwards, on the contrary my dear silhouettes, did not destiny’s child lyric say that a man didn’t want a hot female that’s been around the block female? The gypsy community use the term gorger to describe an outsider or non gypsy, so when the young men are looking to have a “good time” before settling down they go to a “gorger” any female in a club/bar/party that they have met and have a good time! However when he is ready to settle down he is very adamant that she be of his culture, have a good name and reputation and be a virgin. A bit archaic to some, however when you get past the sexualisation of this world, all men really want is a “Good Wholesome Girl” at heart who is “Wifey Material”…what say you Men?

So to hear people accuse Minister Farrakhan of such things WITHOUT doing a lick of studying OR without watching his FULL INTERVIEW… is quite…preposterous. Individuals “think” that the women of the Nation of Islam or Islam in general, are oppressed, forced to cover and have no rights to say anything!!  AGAIN I say PREPOSTEROUS! 

Let us DEFINE some of these ridiculous words people have called him.

Pervert: Verb

1.Distort or corrupt the original course, meaning, or state of (something).

"He was charged with conspiring to pervert the course of justice" << Well NOPE he can’t be that because all he has ever fought for was the LIBERATION and JUSTICE for Black People and All Races. So cross that box off [X]

2. Lead (someone) away from what is considered natural or acceptable. << NOPE all he has ever fought for and is fighting for is the Natural order of how God/The Creator made things in regards to Freedom, Justice and Equality. So cross that box off [X]

Noun

3. A person whose sexual behaviour is regarded as abnormal and unacceptable. << NOPE he has never molested or sexually abused any female, unlike the many occurring cases of Politicians, Actors, Artists etc. ..So DEFINITELY cross that box off [X]

Misogynist: (noun) A person who dislikes, despises, or is strongly prejudiced against women.<< ha-ha not even close! He is and ALWAYS has been for the upliftment of women and young girls, check his lecture record. He was even covered by a security of women called The Vanguard at two of the Nation of Islam’s National Events titled Saviour’s Day. So again cross that box straight off [X]

“Well he said Men are MAINTAINER’S of Women? I’m not property!”

Maintainer: to provide for the upkeep or support of; carry the expenses of:

We see it in typical music videos, where the male rapper or singer has a female love interest and he gives her money or his card to go shopping, get her nails done or do what they want. << That is a form of maintenance is it not? Now it doesn't take away from the independent woman she may be, but the Men do it because they want to, to show that they can and that they are equipped to do so.

This in no way means that she is his property!

I think you catch my drift (raises right eyebrow, with smirk) YEAYEA YEA Ms Silhouette...what about Rih, Bey and Nicki?

You watched the video right! What a bloody CHEEK??!! What possessed this man to do this? Let alone believe he had the right? Minister Farrakhan explains in the interview that the world is so focused on a woman’s form (as beautiful as it is, and should be for that man deserving of it) it takes away from the BEAUTY OF HER MIND. Today men and women alike are so focused on the form of Beyoncé, Rihanna, Nicki, Angelina Jolie so on and so forth, that we rarely, or it is rarely published on how smart these women are, and how far they have come from the background of where they once were!

For Example

Besides Bey’s beauty, she has a GREAT business and financial mind, humanitarian skills and a devoted Mother and Wife. Rihanna, again an incredible business woman, who once upon a time back home in her native land of Barbados rocked PUMA, and now has her own line by the name of FENTY and is the creative director of their Women’s line. As well as many successful fragrances. The same can also be said for Nicki Minaj, many successful fragrances and a strong business woman and entrepreneur. One thing can be said about all these women, is that once you put aside the beauty and the lack of clothes, if we just focus on their mind-set, we can all agree that they all have sacrificed to a large extent and have the discipline and work ethic that has enabled them to succeed?

That is all it is and that is all that Minister Farrakhan was conveying and has been conveying. Modesty allows the individual whether they are famous or not to showcase the beauty of their mind, while being covered in such a way that does not oppress the female but celebrates the fact that her body and or form isn’t all she has to offer. Now if that isn’t a message that you can dig. Then I say it in the words of Vivica A. Fox from Two Can Play That Game... “Then you just don’t know, but you better ask somebody” J

The Impact of Image & Lyrics of an Artist lasts forever ~ Fashion.Silhouette.

Thank you for this journey. Until next time my lovelies

Fashion.Silhouette. x

~ Why Cover ~

~ Why Cover? ~ 

People People! It’s been a LOONG time coming but my next issue is here! With tan-tan-tantalising information and more! So let’s get started…
You know we have to clear that word COVER

Cover: 

Verb 1. Put something on top of or in front of (something) in order to protect or conceal it.
Noun

1. A thing which lies on, over, or around something, especially in order to protect or conceal it.


Right so we can both agree that it means to protect or conceal, conceal what exactly? Something precious and cherished, well who’s the precious in this case and who’s the cherished? YOU ARE FEMALES << I cannot stress how much of an importance you are to this world. Of course the Male is equally as important, however just like I’ve stated before “A Nation can rise no higher than its woman” so if the mind-set and physical condition of the female is not at a high standard, of how she perceives herself then all is lost and sadly what can we say we can pass down to our future. Ahrity let’s pull back on the emotional tip lol.

Most times when we think of being covered, or a female who covers herself, our thoughts automatically go to Muslims, Christians, Jews etc. and occasionally we think these women, especially Muslim women, are oppressed, with HAVING to cover up their beautiful adornments (breasts, legs, curves, bottom etc.) and looking rather dowdy and granny like when doing so. (AM I RIGHT...HAHA YES I SEE YOU NODDING :D). Well what if I was to tell you that is NOT the case AT ALL! Not only are the new generation of Muslimah’s changing the way we look at Modest Fashion BUT, they are also some of the most beautiful and academically accomplished women you could come across, striving to change the world. Now don’t get me wrong this issue is not just for Muslim Women, it is for all religious and non-religious alike, your faithful Fashion Silhouette is just getting you to open your mind and view things without a judgemental view.


We have seen in this world that dressing scantily clad and next to naked almost 80% of the time gets the female no respect and a pre-judgemental opinion of her. I read a popular saying somewhere “Dress How You Want To Be Addressed” it’s really as simple as that. And compared to the many males I have spoken to, as well as the interviews on my past blog titled MEN, MEN, MEN, they really do love a well put together female/lady that leaves SOMETHING to the imagination O-O.
OK STILL DON’T BELIEVE ME! {CRIES INSIDE} let us take a look at some quotes:


“ The less you reveal, the more people can wonder” ~ Emma Watson

“ Classy is when a woman has everything to flaunt, but chooses not to show it” ~ Hugo Chavez

“Dressing well is a form of Good Manners” ~ Tom Ford

“What attracts a man’s attention doesn’t always attract his RESPECT. What turns a man’s head doesn’t always turn his HEART.” ~ Ryan Gosling  [added note] { In other words, don’t be surprised if he discards you after he’s done playing with the display}

“It’s easy to show skin. It takes bravery to show humility, vulnerability, compassion, heart, kindness, & self-respect” ~ Mandy Hale

“Your naked body should only belong to those who fall in love with your naked soul” ~ Charlie Chaplin


WOOP WOOP! Shout out to the MODEST QUOTES :D *Sings Wave your hands in the air, and shake them like you just don’t care* ok let me stop lol O_o but you get the gist right.
Another great example for my beautiful readers is the INFAMOUS VANITY FAIR 2015! This high class magazine recently announced The International Hall of Fame 2015 and it was none other than a beautiful Muslim Woman by the name of H.H. Sheikha Mozah Bint Nasser al-Missned of Qatar.

The article reads :


“It may seem like there is no higher fashion glory than entry onto the International Best-Dressed List, which has catalogued the world's most studied and polished dressers in the world since its 1940 inception. But those names that make regular appearances on the rarefied registry have a chance at its highest honour: the Hall of Fame. It's a distinction bestowed on only the best of the best, in the most elite company.

This year, the Hall's single, singular entry is H.H. Sheikha Mozah bint Nasser al-Missned of Qatar.”

Even in this Western World they had no choice but to pay homage to a woman who did not forsake her modest morals or faith but simply saw her Islam not as a religion per say BUT A Way of Life, which in turn causes her to wear her modesty as an extension of her character. 

They could have chosen ANY female from Beyoncé, Rihanna, Kim Kardashian, Gwyneth Paltrow, Jennifer Lopez, Kelly Osborne, Giuliana Rancic and more! But they didn’t they only choose THE ELITE! This makes you ponder, what looks so chic and great to us is completely the opposite of what they want for their magazine and image. Hmmmm!

Even if you are not religious but simply spiritual or neither, consider, even for a little bit, how much of an impact YOU could make in this zombie ridden world, if the next time you went to your wardrobe you dressed for RESPECT and not for ATTENTION. Now don’t get me wrong I’m not preaching! HOWEVER please believe me the RESPECT will gain you the ATTENTION and the RIGHT ATTENTION at that (smile).  

****{Celebrating Modesty}****

So now that I have talked you to death {I’m really sorry I promise lol} let us take a pleasant look at the Oh So Many variations of Modest Women & their Everyday Clothing. {Quick get your Tea at the ready!}

~ New York Muslimah, Nurse, Model/Fashion Consultant/Stylist, follow her instagram page @FAATIMAH_HEAVEN ~  

~ Detroit Muslimah & Up and coming Designer, follow her YOUTUBE Page HalimahNia~

~ New Jersey Muslimah Aspiring Dr,Student of The Sciences & International Affairs, Follow her YOUTUBE Page HALIMA MAHMOUD~ 

<> Why Is Modesty the best alternative for you?

Modesty is the best alternative for me because I know in being modest I am pleasing my Creator. The best feeling in the world is being obedient in accordance to the rules and regulations Allah has set for those of us who say we believe. Hence, being modest comes easily and strengthens my confidence, self esteem and dignity


<> What inspires your style?

I wouldn't say I'm the most stylish Muslimah. Most of the time I'm too lazy to dress. :-) but i would say I'm into comfortable but stylish maxi skirts and dresses. I'm also very inspired by different cultures. So sometimes I like to wear different cultural clothing i.e. African, Indian, Arabian, and Malaysian are some of the few. As long as I look decent, chic, and colors are on point I'm inspired.

<> Is it an extension of who you are? If yes why, if no why?

My style hasn't always been an extension of who I am but now as I pay closer attention to what I wear it slowly is. One's dressing code is very important and it plays a huge role on how people see you. Because of this I do my best to have my clothing style match the woman of God I'm striving to be.

 ~ London Muslimah, Qualified Doula and Fashion Designer, FOLLOW HER DOULA PAGE on FaceBook & Instagram @ Maryam-Orchid {Yummy Mummy Doula} and Insta YUMMY_MUMMY_DOULA~

<> Why is modesty the best alternative for you? 

Modesty is the only option for me, it represents my way of life which is Islam. Allah has taught me that my body is a temple inside and out, I choose to adorn my body with clothes that cover me because the Lord of the Worlds prescribes me to. Only Him alone knows what is completely best for me. Not to judge anyone else who dresses otherwise, because trust me I was not always so covered up. It has been a process in getting to know myself and my journey with God, and also me looking at how I could make runway fashion embody the definition of 'Muslimah chic’.

<> What inspires your style? 

I am a lover of classic timeless pieces, items of clothing that transcend the barriers of time. Trench coats, capes and leather jackets I have to say are my favourite classic trends of all time, they radiate elegance, grace with a degree of militant edge which I feel embodies who I am.

The Nation Of Islam has had a major impact on my style as a woman. The vision of Mother Clara Muhammad, Mother Khadijah Farrakhan and Mother Tynetta Muhammad had in creating their fashion lines have inspired me from when I was a young age. It always gave me such an extremely high standard of how to dress. Even the public of all demographics can’t help but to be in awe of the garments produced from the minds of such beautiful women shaped by God himself. 

Another one of my inspirations is Sheikha Mozah. Her style is so dynamic. She has managed to get the major fashion houses such as Chanel and Valentino to ‘modify’ their clothing to suit her modesty, that is mind blowing if you really think about it. The many ways she wraps her hair has inspired me in so many ways, her style has taught me to never be afraid to branch out as a woman of God. Allah has created all the colours of the spectrum for us to dazzle the world with. 

<> Is it an extension of who you are? 

Fashion is definitely an extension of who I am. One of my longest aspirations of all time is to be a designer and inshallah that will be a reality soon, for as long as I can remember I have sketched my designs and envisioned it being worn by women, men and children universally. So yes I would say I am fashion and fashion is me, I say this because the things I am passionate about in life reflects the clothes I wear. Whether it’s wearing floral print because I adore the bloom of nature, or wearing wide leg trousers because they have a reputation of elegance. Fashion is something that we all embrace as human beings of the 21st century, because we all wear clothes which represent who we are or want to be.  

~ London Muslimah, Bio-Medical Science Graduate & Upcoming Make-Up Artist~

<> Why is Modesty the best alternative for you?

In my eyes modesty is the only lifestyle I want to live by, to me it’s not an alternative, it’s my way of life. Modesty isn’t just limited to fashion, however when it is incorporated into fashion it gives it an air of class. I’ve been brought up to dress a certain way and to me there is nothing more appealing and eye catching than a woman who is covered from head to toe and looks absolutely flawless and effortless. Modest fashion is the lifestyle I love alhamdullilah. 

<> What inspires your style?

A lot of things inspire my style, I grew up listening to a lot of rock music so I wore a lot of black, and I still do wear a lot of black (Haha) instead of shunning that side of me I embrace it and incorporate it into my style whenever possible. I’m also inspired by my sister in Islam Dina Tokio; I feel that she encompasses everything that I love about modest fashion, she is my biggest inspiration and keeps me thinking outside of the box.

My style is inspired by things and people that inspire me, for Eid I was inspired by Jidenna the rapper/singer, and the way the women dressed in the TV show Penny Dreadful. I am inspired by Hindu culture; and sometimes I wear a bindi. I love pieces of clothing and accessories so I’m inspired by hippie culture, mood stones, stone statement rings, crystal rings, Whatever  I am drawn to I am inspired by and it usually translates through to my style. 

<> Is it an extension of who you are? If yes why, if no why?

My style is definitely an extension of who I am, as I have set forth on this journey to discovering myself and who I am it has just become more and more solidified through my sense of style. I feel like because it is an extension of me my style is rarely ever the same, it may this one day and that the next. I feel like it is imperative to have that platform of self-expression through clothes, wear what you feel and don’t worry about if another person may think you’re too dressed up, to me using that platform to express yourself through clothes is the basis of loving your body and loving yourself. 

In conclusion my dears, the next time we think about covering, let us not think of a negative perspective, but that of a positive, adventurous conquest that will make all those around you say “Yea I’m feeling your vibe” 

“Nothing is cute enough to compensate for how modesty feels” Janet Clarkson 

Until Next Time My Lovelies 

Fashion.Silhouette. x

~ SILENT VIXEN ~

Another chilled Sunday, and I’ve been marinating on this particular piece for a while now. I wanted to give my readers something to think about and truly reflect on. The title alone drips seduction and enticement, however the two words together SILENT and VIXEN makes for an interesting pair wouldn’t you say? So what’s it all about I hear you say, well..My fellow Fashion Silhouettes let me take you down into the rabbit hole.

First and foremost definitions of course:

Silent: not expressed aloud. "A silent prayer"

{Synonyms: unspoken, wordless, unsaid, unstated, undeclared, unexpressed, unmentioned, unpronounced, unvoiced, tacit, implicit, understood, implied,}

Vixen: {according to the Urban Dictionary} totally gorgeous and amazing human female. With the cutest smile and a sweet ass body. Loves partying and drinks a lot but is still incredibly smart. But be warned, can get extremely horny and may jump you unexpectedly.

So again what does this have to do with Modesty? Well! It all started when I was having a conversation with my male work colleague and the topic was females, modesty and the male perspective, and while we were having a great conversation he said something so profound, that it made me sit back for a good while and contemplate. Yes in an ideal world a man would like a modest woman inside and out however he said to me {and I’m paraphrasing} that sometimes some of the most modest or covered females, can be the most hoe-ish, the silent tramp, concubine in the shadows, or lady of the evening… I think you get my gist O_O. 

As painful as it is to say or to come to terms with, the reality is that this is not a far-fetched notion in this world and can reign true without a shadow of a doubt. At times the compass can point to the world of religion and those who say they are Christian, Muslim, Jewish, Buddhist etc. fall short of the representation of their faith and at times end up doing more damage than fixing. Now this is not to put anyone down because I myself am not holier than anyone, however such a quote from my colleague does face one to look at the harsh realities of life.

 It may not even be in religion it could just be the normal office co-worker you see five days a week who dresses to the nines but behavior wise she is very short of a 10. SO! It led me to ask the question WHY? Why do we as females, if we loosely fit this description or know someone who does, act in such ways?  Now there could be many factors that may have contributed to the way she is today, and like I said I do not know everything and there could be a very good reason for such actions, which is completely understandable.

But I hear you say Ms Silhouette why come down on the female so much? WHY? Because we are Queen’s my dears, and like the popular saying goes in the Nation of Islam “A Nation Can Rise No Higher Than It’s Woman!” <<<< hmmm yes just think about that…let that sit in the frontal lobe of your brain and permeate through the cells of your body until it becomes the very breath you breathe. This world fellow woman, will not rise until the female and her perception of self is risen to a MUCH HIGHER standard than it is now! You are not Bitches, Whore’s, THOT’S and whatever name you may hear. YOU are the QUEEN of Civilization, and throughout world history EVERY culture had a STRONG WARRIOR QUEEN who had her head screwed on and KNEW WHO AND WHAT SHE WAS, AND WHAT SHE COULD CONTRIBUTE TO THIS WORLD. 

Like the scientist I am, I really wanted to get to the ROOT of such behaviour, whether we are Atheist, Christian, Muslim, Jewish so on and so forth. All of that means NOTHING if WE as females DO NOT LOVE OURSELVES. On my journey to discovery I asked a few brothers of mine as well as females, their opinion on the matter and in a nutshell one response stood out to me and was as follows:

“ In my opinion women who subject themselves to behaviour that is godlessly, are simply misguided, misunderstood. They probably don’t have the best examples in their life and therefore I feel bad for them. Because the woman is the foundation for every great nation, where she falls the nation falls, where she rises the Nation rises. Where she is confused the Nation that follows is confused. 

My advice to every woman is to seek great leadership and guidance. Leadership that represents God in person. 

Every woman’s’ story is different but most of the time I find that the cores are the same, no true self value or responsibility to their own actions. In my humble opinion” 

Such a powerful statement wouldn’t you say! You may not agree with everything he said BUT you know it hit a nerve somewhere. The key things that stood out to me were:

• “Every woman’s’ story is different but, the cores are the same, no true self value”
• “Where she is confused the Nation that follows is confused.”
• “Where she falls the nation falls, where she rises the Nation rises”

So the question stands, do YOU fellow reader LOVE yourself? Do YOU, fellow reader know WHO YOU ARE? Are you HAPPY being YOU?

One can say the reasons for the things we do, or in this case, the behaviour us females may engage in is due to a disconnect somewhere. Somewhere along the line we missed the definition or demonstration of how to love one’s self fully. Well I keep saying this but I hear you saying what’s the anecdote smart ass (I’m getting there ha-ha). In my humble opinion for me I realised that one must come to terms with the following:

• Accepting EVERY PART OF YOU, we all know and give praise to the good parts of us BUT! TRUELY loving self is getting to know that dark side of you, getting to know and becoming familiar with the things you never thought you would possibly do BUT the circumstance came where this particular darkness in you was given a platform and you took it. And the result is you look at yourself like whoa I never thought I could do that, or stoop so low.

That dark side of you is all a part of the age old saying Know Thy Self (Accept Your Own And Be Yourself) IF we only accept the good in us then we will always be shocked when the devil in us comes to surface. 

However IF we knew self properly we could kill that quickly and I'm sure we wouldn't be in the situations that we put ourselves in.

• Becoming Worldly, meaning travelling this vast world of ours, learning about different cultures, seeing how far your own personal roots run as well as the culture you belong to.
• Learning to love your own company, your likes and dislikes
• Finding out your creative talents that God has put in you, or if you do not believe in a higher being, then simply finding out what the universe has put in you.
• And simply TREATING OTHER’S HOW YOU WOULD WANT TO BE TREATED

These simple steps will definitely help you on your way, BUT if you don’t believe me check out my helpers :D.

The Three Rules for Self-Esteem by Alan Zimmerman

1. Do what's right.

Your self-esteem grows when you know in your heart what is right and DO it. As Lou Holtz would say, "This first rule is not real complicated. Do what's right. Don't do what's wrong. And if you have any questions, get out your Bible to find the answers."

It doesn't matter if you call it business ethics or personal morals, you've got to do what is right. There is no way you can feel good about yourself if you do what you know is wrong. It's a simple rule ... even though it may not always be an easy rule. As the saying goes, "Opportunity may knock once, but temptation bangs on your front door forever." So choose your actions wisely.

2. Do the best you can.

Don't accept anything less than the best from yourself. Like rule #1, there is no way you can feel good about yourself if you do just enough to get by or turn in work that is barely good enough to meet the expectations and standards of your industry. You've got to do the best you can.

When you do that, you reap all the benefits of peace, joy, and self-esteem. As author Pearl S. Buck noted almost a century ago, "The secret of joy in work is contained in one word -- excellence. To know how to do something well is to enjoy it."

3. Treat other people the way you'd like to be treated.

It may sound as old-fashioned as the Golden Rule, but you show me a person who treats others badly, and I'll show you an insecure person with poor self-esteem. You cannot treat anybody ... and I do mean anybody ... badly and feel good about yourself.

As author Michael Josephson puts it, "The way we treat people we think can't help or hurt us (like housekeepers, waiters, and secretaries), tells more about our character than how we treat people we think are important. People who are honest, kind, and fair only when there's something to gain shouldn't be confused with people of real character who demonstrate these qualities habitually, under all circumstances. Character is not a fancy coat we put on for show. It's who we really are."

I agree. Treat people with respect, and you will respect yourself. George Washington Carver knew about that. Despite all the racial hatred that surrounded him, he became one of the world's foremost botanical researchers in the 18 and 1900's as well as one of the most respected men of his time. His guiding philosophy was all about this third rule of self-esteem. He said, "No individual has any right to come into this world and go out of it without leaving behind him distinct and legitimate reasons for having passed through it. How far you go in life depends on your being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of the weak and strong. Because someday in life you will have been all of these."

The rest can be found via this website >> http://www.trans4mind.com/counterpoint/index-communication-relationships/zimmerman15.shtml

"You are what you repeatedly do. Excellence is not an event - it is a habit." --Aristotle, 4th Century BC

Until next time my lovelies

Fashion.Silhouette.

~ SHE vs SHE {The Moral Code} ~

Takes out laptop and removes dusts from the keys, cracks knuckles and gets down to it. The time has come my fellow Silhouettes for another issue! I know time has passed but I was away drawing inspiration for my next issue. Everything I do requires the art of substance! And to my loyal readers you deserve NOTHING but the BEST! And I love and appreciate YOU ALL for it. Let’s get down to business.

My topic today SHE vs SHE  << an interesting subject to say the least right! There’s so much I could cover in this and I definitely will strive to HOWEVER I will not bore you to death I promise ha-ha. I was reflecting on a few things in regards to modesty, relationships the way society is going and most importantly the female, and the topic of SHE came to mind. The she being women over the years and how far we have diminished when it comes to how we carry ourselves, speak, dress, express our emotions and more. Hence the title SHE vs SHE. I began to ask myself where has our Moral Code gone? Why have we fallen so far down from who we were once upon a time? There WAS a time not too long ago when we were treated  with respect, chivalry was apart and the epitome of society, and not just a word or act lost in the deserts of the Sahara, love for both sexes were there and the mystery of the woman was enticing!

Now a days in order to find such a time and a world we can only see this through TV/FILM screens just so we can reminisce of how it used to be, although the art isn’t completely lost, because you still have a small minority of men and women who live by that code of etiquette, chivalry and romance, however where do you find such men and women lol one would have to take a trip to the furthest ends of the Earth to find them tucked away in a small village somewhere (covers face) needless to say I wanted to take my beautiful readers down memory lane and show the old and new generation what it felt like and what it looked like to live in an era of true joy and art!

>>>>>  All Aboard Memory Lane

Take a look at my first example from women from the 1950’s-60’s vs women now in the 21st century, you can see the EXTREME difference right!  (O)_(O ). The poses alone show that the women had a sense of self love, they were proud with who they were, they had an element of poise and mystery about them that enticed you, versus the sex sex sex that you see in their component or future selves! Tell me ladies which one would you want to be? Which one would a man a proper man go for? Which one would he be proud to showcase on his arm beside him not being afraid to proudly open her door, let her go first when entering a building or walking on the outside of the pavement so she wouldn’t get splashed if there was a puddle! (sighs in love) (smile).

SHE vs

SHE

SHE vs

SHE

We have to realise that the art of mystery has been lost from the female. The women from yester year vs the women of today have changed dramatically. Females have become too brazen, too suggestive, too flirtatious, too manly so on and so forth. The characteristics and traits that made up our DNA have been lost to society and its somewhat downward evolution. Now I’m sure I’ve hit a nerve somewhere when I suggested females have become too brazen etc. etc., and I’m not one to be rude or offend anyone HOWEVER one has to look at the TRUTH of it, and I know the TRUTH PIE can have a nasty taste :) but it must be done. Of course me being me I will show you the two extremes visually :D. But before I do I would like to make clear that there is nothing wrong with being strong in your personality as a female, yes a woman must have a little spicy kick to her, however not to the point where the man or other females are completely turned off by your whole presence, and you find it hard to hold down a relationship with those around you. Please understand that I am no one to preach trust me on that, but there has to be a BALANCE I promise you.

 Men whether they say it or not really do love a woman of mystery, if everything isn’t on show and one carries herself a certain way, then they know they CAN NOT get you for free, one HAS to put in the CORRECT WORK because you are WORTHY. YOU ARE THE PRIZE. Then again how can this be or how can he fulfil his role if NOTHING and I mean NOTHING is left to the imagination? Hmm yes I see you side eyeing this screen (smile) if you don’t believe me go back and check out the blog I did about MEN and the many interviews I had, where they all, in a general consensus said the same thing!

Still don’t believe me! Let’s watch some videos! (Side Note: you do not have to watch all the videos to the end, although that would be nice :) but study them quickly so you are able to see my point)

Let us bring to the stand women of the 1950’s and 60’s 

Yesss I see you nodding your head and singing along hmmm (smile) there was poise, etiquette, a sense of self, politeness and more! NOW some of the women of the 21st Century! (Please excuse any foul language)











Yes I hear you saying WOW right, what a way we have fallen! But I’m not done let’s give you some more examples! Back in the 1950’s and 60’s there was more emphasis on etiquette, family and EVEN dating do’s and don’ts! One cannot forget or overshadow the ongoing segregation and racism in that time, hence why I did not find many videos on black male and female relationships, or how men treated them in that era, however the music and the view of women via men especially black men, was of a higher standard than it is today. With this being the Motown era there was more romance, songs had more substance and you got the feeling that these men would do ANYTHING to win the heart of their beloved. Yes I see a smile arising, well follow me to the TIME VAULT and we will see >>











Oh wait we haven’t finished yet! Let us come forward to the SHE of the 21st Century (CAUTION EXCUSE ALL SEXUAL CONTENT! AS I SAID BEFORE, YOU DO NOT HAVE TO WATCH ALL OF THE VIDEO BUT YOU WILL UNDERSTAND MY POINT) >>>











I knowww I know! You’re in true shock right! *sniffles* me too, but all of this was for educational purposes I promise. Can you see the SHE of yester year vs the SHE of today has completely gone array, it feels like we’ve entered the twilight zone right! Now that you’ve seen a small glimpse into the SHE vs SHE saga which SHE do YOU want to be? Again ladies there is nothing wrong with being FEMMINIE, being BEAUTIFUL, feeling SEXY, LOVING YOURSELF and most of all being MODEST! ALL of this can be achieved being MODEST in your Spirit, Mind, Body and Soul with a dash of mystery to you, I promise you Men will begin to RESPECT and LOOK at you differently, try it out, not just for the likes of MEN but for YOURSELF and I PROMISE you, YOU will LOVE the results.

“Lady Etiquette: Respect Yourself, if you don’t others won’t either. Remember, the world sees what you put out there, so hold yourself to a high standard of grace and elegance.~ NewlyMynted” 

Until Next Time My Lovelies

Fashion.Silhouette.

~ What’s YOUR Geographical Location? ~

Another day another blog! Peace and Blessings one and all it’s yours truly Ms Fashion.Silhouette forgive my absence my loves one has much work to catch up on but I shall not bore you with that let’s get IN TO IT!!! So right now I hear you saying what’s up with the title? Well my dears it has EVERYTHING to do with modesty, we’re going to be scientists for a day and explore the world of Geography. First and foremost what does Geographical Location mean?


Geographical Location: The terms location and place in geography are used to identify a point or an area on the Earth's surface or elsewhere.


Now that’s cleared up I want you all to focus on a part of that sentence which touched on this point: “ used to identify a point or an area” << now this is paramount, why, because all those who are in the clothing business especially marketers scope the globe to survey and tally up what the consumers are into, what clothing trends they follow, which area they live in and so on and so forth, and once data is collected and analysed then decisions are made in regards to what clothes are marketed to what area and to whom. Has the light bulb flicked on! :D …not yet. Well this means that Modesty itself and modest clothes are also marketed to a certain demographic. How so you say? Well look at it like this, modest clothes like long chiffon tops or a well-made pair of trousers etc. etc. all seem to be located in an area either where middle class people live or wealthy areas and along with those types of clothing you usually get those middle class and or wealthy prices, which make them unrealistic to buy or we have a use a few pay checks to buy that ONE ITEM! RIGHT (Just here me out lol ).

However when it comes to poor-ish areas, the clothing stores and the clothes inside are cheap, unattractive and either way too tight, too small or too big (those bloody manufacturers!) This is most of the time, it’s not to say this is all of the time because you do find some nice pieces for great prices. But my point is readers that those marketers and clothing companies and the people who own them, study the demographic and know that certain ethnicities live wholly in one area, and not only that, but we work to survive we do not work to live. If we were living we would be up there with the stars and celebrities. Now that isn’t to say we as a people don’t live because there is always a way for a short get away or holiday but that takes months and months of planning. (Cries inside) 

So if they know the masses of the people don’t earn much and clothing is a part of our daily life, they administer a certain type of clothing to those type of people depending on the area you live in. (I see you side eyeing me ha-ha) yes people it’s true! Go ahead and take a look at the area you live in, who surrounds you in your neighbourhood and the type of clothing stores that are situated in your area whether it is middle-class, wealthy or poor compared to an area that you know that’s wealthy or middle-class, their clothes tend to be completely different and a lot more chic. I know this because not only have I worked in retail for 5 years, so I know a little something something, BUT I myself live in an area where the shops are marketed for us poor people, so the clothes are less appealing, at times cheaply made and fugly! Not convinced? Do you need pictorial evidence! (Smile)

Above we have two areas in London the first is Hornsey which is a middle-class to affluent area which my sister happens to live in, and in this area not only do they have a STARBUCKS, but they have a vintage shop, small posh cafes, a bridal shop and much more! And the other area which I reside in is called Peckham, my area has no Starbucks (whhhyyyyyy?) every other shop is a hair shop or badly maintained hair salon, butchers and a few random clothing shops. Do you see the difference hmmm yes I thought so! Even though Peckham is slowly beginning to change it will always have those types of stores, even though history , family and friends once told me that it was a really chic place to shop! Now that you have seen two areas in London, the next time you go clothes shopping or are on your travels take a gander at the stores and the clothing inside and watch the type of people who buy from them, things will begin to click!

Let me not be one sided, let's travel across the pond to the states! below you have two stores, once called "Clothing Co" and the other Milanos, which are both classed as stores which middle-class people shop at, but can you see the type of people they are aimed at? (Use them goggles!)

RETAIL MANIA!!

As I mentioned previously I worked for 5 years in a retail store and with that much experience under my belt, certain things began to pop out to me. This alone caused me to do a little task of my own. Here in London and throughout the United Kingdom there is a well-known clothing shop called PRIMARK which sells affordable fashion for really great prices. However I noticed that there was a huge difference in the areas this shop was situated in. In central London Oxford St the shop is more high fashion in the design of the store as well as the clothes, whereas my area is poorly designed and the clothes, although nice, it wasn’t the same as Oxford St let alone like the other Primark that’s situated only 20 minutes away even that one had a MAKEOVER O-O pictures are below! 

London Oxford Street

London Oxford Street

Peckham, Primark

My point is that the government and those who control the money make most of modest clothing and market it in a way that is unaffordable to the masses or if we can afford it we use a few pay checks to pay it off or to buy it, when ALL of this can be avoided! Everyone has the right to wear nice clothes and feel expensive or feel GOOD without breaking the bank. This can be done by looking on great clothing websites like EBAY, Aliexpress, New Look, Boohoo, H&M, so on and so forth. I’m here to tell you there is nothing wrong with shopping cheap or buying cheap clothes oh no my dears! It’s about how you put them together, having the >>>> EYE OF CREATIVITY<<<<.

(Disclaimer: if you can afford to buy expensive clothes and name brand items then KUDOS TO YOU HONESTLY!) HOWEVER this same look can be achieved on a well-constructed budget! I kid you not :D.

Below I have two beautiful volunteers who are modelling two day to day outfits which they did not spend much on BUT they both look so chic and so fabulous! Both outfits fell within the range of $25-40 dollars YES you read right :) so if they can do it what’s YOUR excuse o_O!

In closing, again I hope and pray you have learnt something! Modesty and modest clothing is a science in itself and location, location, location plays a key part. So the next time you shop, shop like the scientist you are but of course have FUN because FUN is elementary my dear Watsons ;)


“Buy Less Choose Well” ~ Vivienne Westwood

Until Next Time My Lovelies!

Fashion.Silhouette.