~Fashion.Silhouette.~: ~ SILENT VIXEN ~

Another chilled Sunday, and I’ve been marinating on this particular piece for a while now. I wanted to give my readers something to think about and truly reflect on. The title alone drips seduction and enticement, however the two words together SILENT and VIXEN makes for an interesting pair wouldn’t you say? So what’s it all about I hear you say, well..My fellow Fashion Silhouettes let me take you down into the rabbit hole.

First and foremost definitions of course:

Silent: not expressed aloud. "A silent prayer"

{Synonyms: unspoken, wordless, unsaid, unstated, undeclared, unexpressed, unmentioned, unpronounced, unvoiced, tacit, implicit, understood, implied,}

Vixen: {according to the Urban Dictionary} totally gorgeous and amazing human female. With the cutest smile and a sweet ass body. Loves partying and drinks a lot but is still incredibly smart. But be warned, can get extremely horny and may jump you unexpectedly.

So again what does this have to do with Modesty? Well! It all started when I was having a conversation with my male work colleague and the topic was females, modesty and the male perspective, and while we were having a great conversation he said something so profound, that it made me sit back for a good while and contemplate. Yes in an ideal world a man would like a modest woman inside and out however he said to me {and I’m paraphrasing} that sometimes some of the most modest or covered females, can be the most hoe-ish, the silent tramp, concubine in the shadows, or lady of the evening… I think you get my gist O_O.

As painful as it is to say or to come to terms with, the reality is that this is not a far-fetched notion in this world and can reign true without a shadow of a doubt. At times the compass can point to the world of religion and those who say they are Christian, Muslim, Jewish, Buddhist etc. fall short of the representation of their faith and at times end up doing more damage than fixing. Now this is not to put anyone down because I myself am not holier than anyone, however such a quote from my colleague does face one to look at the harsh realities of life.

It may not even be in religion it could just be the normal office co-worker you see five days a week who dresses to the nines but behavior wise she is very short of a 10. SO! It led me to ask the question WHY? Why do we as females, if we loosely fit this description or know someone who does, act in such ways? Now there could be many factors that may have contributed to the way she is today, and like I said I do not know everything and there could be a very good reason for such actions, which is completely understandable.

But I hear you say Ms Silhouette why come down on the female so much? WHY? Because we are Queen’s my dears, and like the popular saying goes in the Nation of Islam “A Nation Can Rise No Higher Than It’s Woman!” <<<< hmmm yes just think about that…let that sit in the frontal lobe of your brain and permeate through the cells of your body until it becomes the very breath you breathe. This world fellow woman, will not rise until the female and her perception of self is risen to a MUCH HIGHER standard than it is now! You are not Bitches, Whore’s, THOT’S and whatever name you may hear. YOU are the QUEEN of Civilization, and throughout world history EVERY culture had a STRONG WARRIOR QUEEN who had her head screwed on and KNEW WHO AND WHAT SHE WAS, AND WHAT SHE COULD CONTRIBUTE TO THIS WORLD.

Like the scientist I am, I really wanted to get to the ROOT of such behaviour, whether we are Atheist, Christian, Muslim, Jewish so on and so forth. All of that means NOTHING if WE as females DO NOT LOVE OURSELVES. On my journey to discovery I asked a few brothers of mine as well as females, their opinion on the matter and in a nutshell one response stood out to me and was as follows:

“ In my opinion women who subject themselves to behaviour that is godlessly, are simply misguided, misunderstood. They probably don’t have the best examples in their life and therefore I feel bad for them. Because the woman is the foundation for every great nation, where she falls the nation falls, where she rises the Nation rises. Where she is confused the Nation that follows is confused.

My advice to every woman is to seek great leadership and guidance. Leadership that represents God in person.

Every woman’s’ story is different but most of the time I find that the cores are the same, no true self value or responsibility to their own actions. In my humble opinion”

Such a powerful statement wouldn’t you say! You may not agree with everything he said BUT you know it hit a nerve somewhere. The key things that stood out to me were:

“Every woman’s’ story is different but, the cores are the same, no true self value”
“Where she is confused the Nation that follows is confused.”
“Where she falls the nation falls, where she rises the Nation rises”

So the question stands, do YOU fellow reader LOVE yourself? Do YOU, fellow reader know WHO YOU ARE? Are you HAPPY being YOU?

One can say the reasons for the things we do, or in this case, the behaviour us females may engage in is due to a disconnect somewhere. Somewhere along the line we missed the definition or demonstration of how to love one’s self fully. Well I keep saying this but I hear you saying what’s the anecdote smart ass (I’m getting there ha-ha). In my humble opinion for me I realised that one must come to terms with the following:

Accepting EVERY PART OF YOU, we all know and give praise to the good parts of us BUT! TRUELY loving self is getting to know that dark side of you, getting to know and becoming familiar with the things you never thought you would possibly do BUT the circumstance came where this particular darkness in you was given a platform and you took it. And the result is you look at yourself like whoa I never thought I could do that, or stoop so low.

That dark side of you is all a part of the age old saying Know Thy Self (Accept Your Own And Be Yourself) IF we only accept the good in us then we will always be shocked when the devil in us comes to surface.

However IF we knew self properly we could kill that quickly and I'm sure we wouldn't be in the situations that we put ourselves in.

Becoming Worldly, meaning travelling this vast world of ours, learning about different cultures, seeing how far your own personal roots run as well as the culture you belong to.
Learning to love your own company, your likes and dislikes
Finding out your creative talents that God has put in you, or if you do not believe in a higher being, then simply finding out what the universe has put in you.
And simply TREATING OTHER’S HOW YOU WOULD WANT TO BE TREATED

These simple steps will definitely help you on your way, BUT if you don’t believe me check out my helpers :D.

The Three Rules for Self-Esteem by Alan Zimmerman

1. Do what's right.

Your self-esteem grows when you know in your heart what is right and DO it. As Lou Holtz would say, "This first rule is not real complicated. Do what's right. Don't do what's wrong. And if you have any questions, get out your Bible to find the answers."

It doesn't matter if you call it business ethics or personal morals, you've got to do what is right. There is no way you can feel good about yourself if you do what you know is wrong. It's a simple rule ... even though it may not always be an easy rule. As the saying goes, "Opportunity may knock once, but temptation bangs on your front door forever." So choose your actions wisely.

2. Do the best you can.

Don't accept anything less than the best from yourself. Like rule #1, there is no way you can feel good about yourself if you do just enough to get by or turn in work that is barely good enough to meet the expectations and standards of your industry. You've got to do the best you can.

When you do that, you reap all the benefits of peace, joy, and self-esteem. As author Pearl S. Buck noted almost a century ago, "The secret of joy in work is contained in one word -- excellence. To know how to do something well is to enjoy it."

3. Treat other people the way you'd like to be treated.

It may sound as old-fashioned as the Golden Rule, but you show me a person who treats others badly, and I'll show you an insecure person with poor self-esteem. You cannot treat anybody ... and I do mean anybody ... badly and feel good about yourself.

As author Michael Josephson puts it, "The way we treat people we think can't help or hurt us (like housekeepers, waiters, and secretaries), tells more about our character than how we treat people we think are important. People who are honest, kind, and fair only when there's something to gain shouldn't be confused with people of real character who demonstrate these qualities habitually, under all circumstances. Character is not a fancy coat we put on for show. It's who we really are."

I agree. Treat people with respect, and you will respect yourself. George Washington Carver knew about that. Despite all the racial hatred that surrounded him, he became one of the world's foremost botanical researchers in the 18 and 1900's as well as one of the most respected men of his time. His guiding philosophy was all about this third rule of self-esteem. He said, "No individual has any right to come into this world and go out of it without leaving behind him distinct and legitimate reasons for having passed through it. How far you go in life depends on your being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of the weak and strong. Because someday in life you will have been all of these."

The rest can be found via this website >> http://www.trans4mind.com/counterpoint/index-communication-relationships/zimmerman15.shtml